Incognito, meet Justice Miller…PLEASE.

Miami Dolphins' Richie Incognito has been bullying teammate Jonathan Martin with racial epithets and threats. When Martin stepped down from the team last week, someone on Facebook asked the question, “Is it bullying if both people are over 300 pounds?”Yes, it is. Because bullying is when someone uses his strength and meanness to intimidate another person. And strong, mean people come in large and small packages, and so do their victims.The great news is that unbullies also come in large a … [Read more...]

Can Saying “Yes” Create Bullies?

Young girl looking upset

I say no a lot as a parent. My son asked if he could watch the Broncos game with friends on Sunday. “Not tonight, Bud.” A few moments later, my 8-year-old daughter, the breadaholic, asked if she could have a third dinner roll. “Nope.” Later, all three of our kids asked if they could stay up late. “Not going to happen. Love you.”I'm not an ogre...I do also say yes quite a bit. The amount of requests I field every day gives me ample opportunities to employ both responses. But the point is: I’m … [Read more...]

Does Your Family Want You Home?

Do They Want You

“The kids…and I, to be honest…like it when he’s gone.”Michelle was at the end of her rope. She’d come in for advice on how to deal with her husband, Mark. As we talked, it became obvious that Mark’s presence in the home—like oil leaking into a fresh water aquifer—created a toxic environment.Mark was always on edge. Or stressed. Or quiet. Or grumpy. Sure, occasionally he was happy. But that’s the problem with Mark—those closest to him never knew what they were going to get when he walked i … [Read more...]


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