Bored by too much to do

The girl with notebook

"I'm bored, Mom. Give me something to do!"The woman standing behind me at the checkout line of the hardware store handed her son her smartphone, and said, "Here...play with this."Children seem to be growing up bored today. And not because there is less to do, but because there are too many over-stimulating options. As a father (with a smartphone) of three kids (who all want smartphones), I think a lot about what I’m passing on to my children. A conversation with a friend recently drove t … [Read more...]

Fathers…Superheroes or Superzeroes

Dads

“Would you tell me about your dad?”That’s one of my favorite questions to ask another person. Few inquiries surface strong feelings quicker. I’ve had people respond by turning fifty shades of red. Some have sobbed with disappointment. Others have come alive inside, smiling ear to ear as they tell me stories of the strength and compassion of their "old man.”I’ve never had anyone respond weakly to that question.I love the response that Tim Harris gave to NPR Storycorps. Tim lives in … [Read more...]

Boys to Men: Hip Bar Mitzvah Video

Aidan and his Labrador

I’ve got a 9-year old son who is itching on the inside to become a man. He tries to talk in a deep voice, give advice to everyone, including our pets, and volunteer for all the “heavy lifting” chores around the house. As his dad, I’m trying to think of ways to help him make the transition into manhood in his own mind, as well as in the eyes of our community.I’ve found quite a few ideas so far, such as the Brazilian tribe Satere-Mawe’s tradition of a young man sticking his hand into a glove fu … [Read more...]

Clicking Parties and Other Milestones

clicking party

Our youngest daughter, Claire, has had a hard time learning to read. Our first two children took to books like honeybees to flowers, but their sister has had a harder time locating the nectar.Awhile back, my wife, Jamie, told Claire: “If you stick with it and work hard, there will come a time that reading will just click for you.”That statement ignited hope in Claire, and clearly stuck in her mind all day – that night before bed, she said, “Mom, I can’t wait for that clicking to happen. W … [Read more...]

Slaying Dragons and Eating Peas

manofthehouse

What my nine-year-old son hears: I’m going to be gone for about a week…so you’re the man on the house, Son. You’re the one to slay the Kraken if he’s released in our neighborhood. You’d better sharpen all your weapons, lay them out on your bed, and be ready to use them. If someone breaks into our house, you’ll need to be the one to disarm him, render him helpless, and pin him to the floor with your ever-growing biceps until the police arrive. Do all this…and you’re the one who will be crowned Ki … [Read more...]

Do You Tell Your Kids When You’re Struggling?

I'm struggling

 I’ve blogged in the past about being careful to not make our children deal with images from our past that could hurt them. If our transgressions screw-ups have been removed from us as far as the east is from the west, we must be very careful about dredging them up and making others think about them, especially our children.But...that being said, parents who walk by grace will regularly share their neediness for the help of God with their children. One of the great goals of p … [Read more...]


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