While I don’t plan to make a habit of posting media from Mark Driscoll on this blog, this one deserved mentioning if only because of the conversation happening here this week.
When I published Smokin’ Hot Wives & Water to the Soul, I truly had no idea that Driscoll would be preaching on Ephesians 5 and complementarianism in this week’s sermon media. There is an amazing object lesson in this clip, though. And it has to do with the subtle way in which a male pastor preaching female submission and chiding women for disrespect and nagging (which happens a lot around 8:00-on) actually shames women in his congregation and creates an atmosphere of oppression.
A lot of the pushback I received for the post this week came in the form of, “C’mon, I love acknowledging my wife’s beauty and she loves it when I do! Plus it’s biblical! You’re such a prude and a buzkill!” One conservative Christian woman tweeted this:
While I appreciate the honesty here (ok, that tweet stung a little), I can’t help but think it misses the point. Or, maybe worse – it represents a harsh, kneejerk defense mechanism that actually proves my point. The point being: there is an inculturated demeaning of women at work here that even some women are ready to defend. And, quite frankly, I’ve seen it, because I’ve been a part of it. And my wife and I took difficult steps to remove ourselves from that same culture of shame and oppression.
As we watched this video together and I filled in the blanks with some of the stories I’ve heard of Mark’s “counsel” toward husbands about their uppity, nagging wives, my wife simply remarked, “Oh, he’d probably hate me.”
Which is why I LOVE her.
So what do you think? Do you see any concerning/alarming elements in this sermon clip? Or is it basically biblical and OK? Do you notice an underlying tone or trend – or something “not right” about the posture of a man preaching this way about women? How do you reconcile the text itself with your views? I’d love to hear your thoughts!