#FFFF: Andy Gill

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I used to be a pastor, a youth pastor to be exact, but I quickly came to find that church wasn’t for me. The churches I attended felt more like country clubs for the elite, where we learned how to appear moral and nice, it was the message of, "Be everything but who you are."I was tired of pretending. I was tired of lying. I was tired of feeling forced to put on a mask every Sunday morning.I grew up in a caucasian conservative evangelical church, and have worked in only conservative e … [Read more...]

Modest Hopes for My Two Girls

It's been about a year since I started blogging more intentionally, and during that time I have learned so much.And I've learned so much from you, the readers (many of whom are brilliant writers) who comment and engage and challenge and inform me as I put my ideas and experiences out there.For some reason, a lot of what we've talked about here (and on Facebook and Twitter) has revolved around gender dynamics in the church, family, and culture. Some of the things I've learned … [Read more...]

Smokin’ Hot Conversations: Melinda Cadwallader on Getting Naked

All summer long, I’ll be running a series of guest posts here on the blog called “Smokin’ Hot Conversations.” These will be posts about gender, relationships, power, and the church, meant to move us to deeper reflection and conversation about the often distracting or harmful messages in Christian culture. Earlier this week I asked a question about whether modesty can be redeemed, and I loved Melinda Cadwallader's answer. So she joins us this week to expand on her view of redeeming modesty, especi … [Read more...]

Smokin’ Hot Conversations: Amy Thedinga on the Seduction Myth

All summer long, I'll be running a series of guest posts here on the blog called "Smokin' Hot Conversations." These will be posts about gender, relationships, power, and the church, meant to move us to deeper reflection and conversation about the often distracting or harmful messages in Christian culture. Amy Thedinga joins us this week with a powerful post about the seduction myth perpetuated by many pastors. She's a third generation pastor's kid who has a story to tell, and she co-leads a … [Read more...]

Three Smokin’ Clarifiers (and I Won’t. Back. Down.)

This week was Smokin' Hot.Since there has been so much wonderful back and forth and even a little bit of brouhaha about Monday's piece, I figured I would post a few clarifiers before bed here on Friday night.Fact is, the vast majority of responses have come in the form of an "amen" of one kind or another, and some of those have been heart-wrenching stories from women readers about the demeaning culture in some evangelical churches. There have also been a minority that have pushed back, … [Read more...]

Evangelicals Discerning an Issue

In my last post about "Boundaries" I mentioned that our church plant had once discerned the issue in question - the issue Rob Bell made a clear pronouncement on last week - the issue of gay rights/gay marriage. And we discerned it from a self-consciously evangelical perspective. I want to share what we came out with, in the hopes that it may be of help to you in your context.Note that this post is also an attempt at demonstrating the real point of my last post: that local, contextual, … [Read more...]


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