My #2013 Writing Elsewhere

It's  been a wonderful year here on the blog, and I so appreciate everyone who has read and joined the conversation. Ya'll are a huge blessing to me.It's also been a really fun year for writing elsewhere. Here's a roundup of the pieces I wrote that were published in other places:HuffPost Religion:Smokin' Hot Wives & Water for the SoulA False Gospel of ReconciliationCalling Out Celebrity Christianity & Counterfeit JusticeJesus Will Rapture the Church Out of … [Read more...]

Modest Hopes for My Two Girls

It's been about a year since I started blogging more intentionally, and during that time I have learned so much.And I've learned so much from you, the readers (many of whom are brilliant writers) who comment and engage and challenge and inform me as I put my ideas and experiences out there.For some reason, a lot of what we've talked about here (and on Facebook and Twitter) has revolved around gender dynamics in the church, family, and culture. Some of the things I've learned … [Read more...]

A Modest Question

Yesterday on Twitter and Facebook I asked this question:Do you think it's possible to "redeem" the idea of modesty? Or has rape culture rendered it useless/harmful?The responses were just wonderful. Here are some of them:Leaning towards "not possible":Leaning towards "possible" with qualifications:Finally, this iced Americano fueled string of tweets from Amy Martin:Also see this post today by Rachel Held Evans over at Q Ideas. It clarifies a lot of … [Read more...]

Smokin’ Hot Conversations: Osheta Moore on the Church Planter’s Wife

All summer long, I’ll be running a series of guest posts here on the blog called “Smokin’ Hot Conversations.” These will be posts about gender, relationships, power, and the church, meant to move us to deeper reflection and conversation about the often distracting or harmful messages in Christian culture. Osheta Moore joins us this week with a post about being a church planter's wife - or is it a church planter? - in the Greater Boston area. She’s also a mom of three and a brilliant blogger. Lear … [Read more...]

Smokin’ Hot Conversations: Elizabeth Morrow on Modesty

All summer long, I’ll be running a series of guest posts here on the blog called “Smokin’ Hot Conversations.” These will be posts about gender, relationships, power, and the church, meant to move us to deeper reflection and conversation about the often distracting or harmful messages in Christian culture. Elizabeth Morrow joins us this week with a post about modesty messages in the church, which often become harmful and may even perpetuate rape culture. She’s a style blogger from Tacoma, WA, and … [Read more...]

Smokin’ Hot Conversations: Amy Thedinga on the Seduction Myth

All summer long, I'll be running a series of guest posts here on the blog called "Smokin' Hot Conversations." These will be posts about gender, relationships, power, and the church, meant to move us to deeper reflection and conversation about the often distracting or harmful messages in Christian culture. Amy Thedinga joins us this week with a powerful post about the seduction myth perpetuated by many pastors. She's a third generation pastor's kid who has a story to tell, and she co-leads a … [Read more...]

Smokin’ Hot Conversations: Amy Martin on Attraction

I'm beginning a new series of guest posts here on the blog called "Smokin' Hot Conversations." These will be posts about gender, relationships, power, and the church, meant to move us to deeper reflection and conversation about the often distracting or harmful messages in Christian culture. Amy Martin is kicking things off with this awesome post - thanks, Amy! She is a wife, mom, and blogger from Traverse City, Michigan. Learn more about her here.And if you'd like to contribute to this … [Read more...]

Three Complementarians & a Mutualist

So now that Smokin' Hot Fest 2013 has died down somewhat, I figured I'd deliver on my promise to talk a little bit more about the theological root of the demeaning, misogynistic evangelical fruit that I surveyed in the first post on the topic.It's time, you guys. Time to talk about...complementarianism.Now, I know that the uninitiated will find that word cumbersome and confusing. Does this have something to do with complimenting people? Like, "Nice job!"-ism? Worse, does it have … [Read more...]

Three Smokin’ Clarifiers (and I Won’t. Back. Down.)

This week was Smokin' Hot.Since there has been so much wonderful back and forth and even a little bit of brouhaha about Monday's piece, I figured I would post a few clarifiers before bed here on Friday night.Fact is, the vast majority of responses have come in the form of an "amen" of one kind or another, and some of those have been heart-wrenching stories from women readers about the demeaning culture in some evangelical churches. There have also been a minority that have pushed back, … [Read more...]

The Subtleties of Shaming a Nag

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=C4cN-CtkHYk&feature=youtu.beWhile I don't plan to make a habit of posting media from Mark Driscoll on this blog, this one deserved mentioning if only because of the conversation happening here this week.When I published Smokin' Hot Wives & Water to the Soul, I truly had no idea that Driscoll would be preaching on Ephesians 5 and complementarianism in this week's sermon media. There is an amazing object lesson in this clip, though. And it has to do … [Read more...]


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