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I grew up believing that being married one day was a crucial part of my existence. Finding the man I was meant to be with would complete me.  I didn’t learn these ideas from Disney movies or pop music on the radio. I learned these ideas at church.When sermons regularly focused on marriage, adults told me to listen and store the truth away for my future union.Sunday School teachers shared their fervent prayers for their children’s future spouses.Camp counselors drew diagrams to sho … [Read more...]

A V-Day Proposal

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Valentine's Day is the day in Christian culture when people post photos of their "honey" on "date night" or opine about true (Christian married) love on their blogs or share stuff about the REAL St. Valentine or otherwise act kind of obnoxious about having the right kind of romantic relationship and the right kind of faith.It's our own version of the Hallmark holiday that is careful to moralize or educate while "celebrating."But I have a proposal.What if, instead of being so … [Read more...]

Smokin’ Hot Conversations: I’m Attracted to You. All of You.

All summer long, I’ll be running a series of guest posts here on the blog called “Smokin’ Hot Conversations.” These will be posts about gender, relationships, power, and the church, meant to move us to deeper reflection and conversation about the often distracting or harmful messages in Christian culture. Unfortunately, this isn't a guest post - because I wrote it! Sorry 'bout that. (But trust me, it's an awesome post.)And if you’d like to contribute to this series, drop me a line.---I … [Read more...]

The Subtleties of Shaming a Nag

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=C4cN-CtkHYk&feature=youtu.beWhile I don't plan to make a habit of posting media from Mark Driscoll on this blog, this one deserved mentioning if only because of the conversation happening here this week.When I published Smokin' Hot Wives & Water to the Soul, I truly had no idea that Driscoll would be preaching on Ephesians 5 and complementarianism in this week's sermon media. There is an amazing object lesson in this clip, though. And it has to do … [Read more...]

Smokin’ Hot Wives & Water to the Soul

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A couple days ago, Her.meneutics ran a great piece by Mary DeMuth on the current obsession among evangelical pastors/leaders with talking/tweeting endlessly about their "smokin' hot wives" - an obsession that has spread throughout American Christian culture.The post resonated with me.It resonated because, as I've mentioned before on this blog, I was once a part of the segment of evangelicalism that fosters this kind of attitude - the kind that makes leaders go on and on about their … [Read more...]


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