Smokin’ Hot…Moms?

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Today I'm writing over at my church's #BelieveInPlace blog: My friend Stephanie Drury searches Twitter every Friday night for Christian men talking about going on “date night” with their “smokin’ hot wives.” There is literally an endless number of tweets that emerge from the search, using those exact words. Misogyny and objectification are cultural realities – we know this – but they are also Christian Cultural realities.So what does that mean for moms?To say nothing of the harmfulness o … [Read more...]

Like Sheep Amidst the Wolves (of Wall Street)

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Okay, so if you need some kind of disclaimer about the sex, swearing, and drug use that pervades the DiCaprio/Scorsese masterpiece The Wolf of Wall Street, please consult Focus on the Family's Plugged In Movie Review (if you dare).Suffice it to say, there are not graphic or profane scenes in this film - the film itself is a graphic and profane scene. It is, in this sense, an experience of the excessive, a revelation of the gratuitous. And how could it not be? If we have any illusions about … [Read more...]

Modest Hopes for My Two Girls

It's been about a year since I started blogging more intentionally, and during that time I have learned so much.And I've learned so much from you, the readers (many of whom are brilliant writers) who comment and engage and challenge and inform me as I put my ideas and experiences out there.For some reason, a lot of what we've talked about here (and on Facebook and Twitter) has revolved around gender dynamics in the church, family, and culture. Some of the things I've learned … [Read more...]

#GagReflex

Oops, they did it again.The Gospel Coalition, that is. This time, it's a post from Thabiti Anyabwile going above and beyond in confirming my perspective on the politicization of the neo-reformed around gay marriage legislation, creating something of a new religious right. And doing that, really, in the most base, tactless, and harmful way possible. I was going to type "carless," which would also be true considering the potential negative impact this post could have on gay young people in … [Read more...]

Smokin’ Hot Conversations: I’m Attracted to You. All of You.

All summer long, I’ll be running a series of guest posts here on the blog called “Smokin’ Hot Conversations.” These will be posts about gender, relationships, power, and the church, meant to move us to deeper reflection and conversation about the often distracting or harmful messages in Christian culture. Unfortunately, this isn't a guest post - because I wrote it! Sorry 'bout that. (But trust me, it's an awesome post.)And if you’d like to contribute to this series, drop me a line.---I … [Read more...]

Smokin’ Hot Conversations: Melinda Cadwallader on Getting Naked

All summer long, I’ll be running a series of guest posts here on the blog called “Smokin’ Hot Conversations.” These will be posts about gender, relationships, power, and the church, meant to move us to deeper reflection and conversation about the often distracting or harmful messages in Christian culture. Earlier this week I asked a question about whether modesty can be redeemed, and I loved Melinda Cadwallader's answer. So she joins us this week to expand on her view of redeeming modesty, especi … [Read more...]

A Modest Question

Yesterday on Twitter and Facebook I asked this question:Do you think it's possible to "redeem" the idea of modesty? Or has rape culture rendered it useless/harmful?The responses were just wonderful. Here are some of them:Leaning towards "not possible":Leaning towards "possible" with qualifications:Finally, this iced Americano fueled string of tweets from Amy Martin:Also see this post today by Rachel Held Evans over at Q Ideas. It clarifies a lot of … [Read more...]

Smokin’ Hot Conversations: Amy Thedinga on the Seduction Myth

All summer long, I'll be running a series of guest posts here on the blog called "Smokin' Hot Conversations." These will be posts about gender, relationships, power, and the church, meant to move us to deeper reflection and conversation about the often distracting or harmful messages in Christian culture. Amy Thedinga joins us this week with a powerful post about the seduction myth perpetuated by many pastors. She's a third generation pastor's kid who has a story to tell, and she co-leads a … [Read more...]

Smokin’ Hot Conversations: Amy Martin on Attraction

I'm beginning a new series of guest posts here on the blog called "Smokin' Hot Conversations." These will be posts about gender, relationships, power, and the church, meant to move us to deeper reflection and conversation about the often distracting or harmful messages in Christian culture. Amy Martin is kicking things off with this awesome post - thanks, Amy! She is a wife, mom, and blogger from Traverse City, Michigan. Learn more about her here.And if you'd like to contribute to this … [Read more...]

Smokin’ Hot Wives & Water to the Soul

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A couple days ago, Her.meneutics ran a great piece by Mary DeMuth on the current obsession among evangelical pastors/leaders with talking/tweeting endlessly about their "smokin' hot wives" - an obsession that has spread throughout American Christian culture.The post resonated with me.It resonated because, as I've mentioned before on this blog, I was once a part of the segment of evangelicalism that fosters this kind of attitude - the kind that makes leaders go on and on about their … [Read more...]


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