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<\/a>THIS CHRISTMAS WILL BE disheartening for many of us. Our unstable economy, dwindling financial security, home foreclosures, and job losses will not pause for the holiday season. Add health issues to that equation and the result is few, if any, gifts beneath the Christmas Tree. However, there is a bright star in our dark night: community support.We are bigger than the sum of our problems.<\/p>\n\u00a0<\/p>\n
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We belong to the community of mankind. Fellowship and help networks filled with resources and hope are available to everyone. So are sympathetic shoulders to cry on. In my work as a phone counselor for the R.A. BLOCH CANCER FOUNDATION, I recently received a call from a woman I\u2019ll name Lisa for this blog.<\/p>\n
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Lisa was calling from California. It soon became apparent that this woman, who had just been diagnosed with breast cancer recurrence, needed a whole lot more than just my shoulder for support.<\/p>\n
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\u201cI can\u2019t start my cancer treatments!\u201d the hysterical voice on the phone cried. \u201cI have to pack all of my belongings because the bank is foreclosing on my home. I\u2019m being thrown out into the street and I have nowhere to go!\u201d I heard the phone drop to the floor, followed by loud weeping. I felt my heart sink. I wanted to cry with her but that wouldn\u2019t help either of us. So I waited for Lisa to retrieve the phone and resume her tale. Sometimes listening is the first step in helping. \u201cI\u2019m the last of my family,\u201d she sobbed and explained that her father and brother had died of cancer last year. Her mother had died two years ago.<\/p>\n
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Her dog was her only companion and she was running out of dog food.<\/p>\n
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\u201cIf I start my cancer treatments, I won\u2019t have enough energy to pack, and my things are all that I have left of my family. How can you possibly help me?\u201d she demanded.<\/p>\n
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Good question! How could I assist a woman in such a severe crisis living on the other side of the country? If stress is a killer, why is this poor woman still alive? Is it any wonder she has cancer, again?<\/p>\n
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\u201cI don\u2019t want to live anymore!\u201d she moaned. \u201cNo one can help me.\u201d I encouraged her to take a deep breath and reassured her that there are resources and contacts available to help her. I found the toll-free numbers for the director of the Cancer Legal Resource Center in Los Angeles, and the name of an attorney who is a two-time cancer survivor and co-founder of a legal network for cancer patients.<\/p>\n
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Before giving Lisa these phone numbers, I contacted the organizations to be sure they could meet her needs. The voice answering the phone said, \u201cHave her call us. We can help.\u201d Two days later, I followed up with a call to Lisa, and discovered that she had contacted the attorney, and Legal Resource Center.<\/p>\n
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A community animal organization had donated food for her dog.<\/p>\n
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She sounded much better as she prepared for her treatments. We spoke of the statistically increasing chances of surviving cancer recurrence, due to new treatments, with better results, and fewer side effects. \u201cCall me if you need me,\u201d I said. \u201cI\u2019m here for you.\u201d<\/p>\n
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\u201cWill you pray for me?\u201d she asked in a tiny voice?<\/p>\n
\u201cYes, I will.\u201d<\/p>\n
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I was reluctant to let Lisa go, but realized I had to respect her ability, and desire to empower herself with these resources. Unfortunately, Lisa\u2019s story is not the exception during these trying times. Her story, however, has a silver lining, with the uplifting message that community support is crucial during any crisis.<\/p>\n
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As a community, we are our sister\u2019s keepers. A few days after Lisa\u2019s call, I heard an interesting conversation while standing in a grocery store check-out line.<\/p>\n
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One lady complained about her financial problems to a second woman who responded with, \u201cIf you want to change the way your problems appear, change the way you peer at them.\u201d This remark reminded me of the movie Dead Poets Society, in which Robin Williams played an English Professor who encouraged his students to stand on top of their desks to gain a different perspective on life.<\/p>\n
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Another helpful way to achieve this change is by not looking at our problems alone.<\/p>\n
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Like the students in the movie, sometimes we need a guide to help us process challenges differently.<\/p>\n
Getting back to holiday basics, and viewing them from a different perspective by remembering the true message of Christmas may also help reduce this season\u2019s stresses.<\/p>\n
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Christmas was a message of hope and joy embodied in the form of a new life: a homeless infant born in a barn with a manger for a crib. This child did not receive piles of expensive gifts. He received a roof over his head, and one small heartfelt gift from each of three wise men.<\/p>\n
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In keeping with the true tradition of Christmas, my husband and I have decided not to exchange Christmas gifts this year. We have all we need and want for nothing. Instead, we are going to give them to children in need within our community.<\/p>\n
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This year we will view Christmas from a different perspective, that of the Wise Men.<\/p>\n
The internet is rich in local resources for women in crisis. With our extended community of world-wide \u201cwomenkind\u201d we have unlimited assets from which to draw at our fingertips. If you know anyone in crisis, please share this article to help them during the holiday season and beyond. Merry Christmas and Happy New Year.<\/p>\n
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BIO: Kathleen O\u2019Keefe-Kanavos, Intuitive Life Coach, survived three breast cancers, wrote SURVIVING CANCERLAND: Intuitive Aspects of Healing (Cypress House, Jan 2014) http:\/\/tinyurl.com\/p7cjfxa websites: http:\/\/www.survivingcancerland.com & Access Your Inner Guide, Hosts Living Well Talk Radio, Cancer Q&A columnist- CapeWomenOnlineMagazine, Dream Queen columnist-Wellness Woman 40 & Beyond,Blogger for BreastCancerYoga.com, YourDreamIntrepretation.com, WakeUpWomen, PATHEOS; R.A. BLOCH Cancer Foundation Hotline Counselor. Represented by Steve Allen Media<\/p>\n<\/body><\/html>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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