{"id":33380,"date":"2020-10-24T19:11:39","date_gmt":"2020-10-24T19:11:39","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/admin.patheos.com\/blogs\/agora\/?p=33380"},"modified":"2020-10-24T19:11:39","modified_gmt":"2020-10-24T19:11:39","slug":"between-two-worlds-my-visit-with-the-dead","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.patheos.com\/blogs\/agora\/2020\/10\/between-two-worlds-my-visit-with-the-dead\/","title":{"rendered":"Between Two Worlds: My Visit With The Dead"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<\/head>

As the Veil is thinning, it\u2019s time for me to visit with the dead again. But this year it\u2019s going to be my visit with my matriarchal ancestors. As many of you know I left New York State in 1961 and vowed never to return. You may remember this article<\/strong><\/a> I wrote about that.<\/p>\n

But all of that went out the window when I moved back to my ancestral motherland on May 1st. Beltane. The start of my search to know more about my mother\u2019s family. As it turned out, those ancestors, except for my parents, are all buried in an old cemetery within easy walking distance from the apartment that I share with my sister.<\/p>\n

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Almost all of my mother\u2019s family are buried in an old cemetery within easy walking distance. Photo by the author.<\/em><\/figcaption><\/figure>\n

I started visiting those graves right after I moved back here. I hadn\u2019t been to my grandparents\u2019 and great-grandparents\u2019 graves for about 40 years. And I hadn\u2019t taken a lot of time to visit with the dead years ago, or when I first moved back here, except to see the grave sites. Until today.<\/p>\n

What was I waiting for, you might ask. I was waiting until everything came into place and the season of Samhain began. I do Half Moon workings from time to time, and since the day I visited was a waxing Half Moon in Aquarius it seemed appropriate for me to start then. The Sun was in Scorpio, which is the sign I was born under. Gaia wanted to help me by giving me a beautiful day after several cold days with on and off rain. The day I visited, it was 80 degrees and sunny! I knew that was another sign I\u2019d been waiting for.<\/p>\n

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I went to the cemetery to visit with the dead. Image by Momentmal<\/a> via Pixabay.<\/em><\/figcaption><\/figure>\n

So off I went to the cemetery to visit with the dead. It helped that I already knew where my ancestors were buried. I brought offerings of mugwort, stones from Wisconsin and lit small candles on select graves, including my great-grandmother\u2019s grave. I\u2019ve had some interesting meditations with her before. Including when I was watching my younger self talk to her in the living room where I used to live at our family farm. The last time was during a meditation in February at PantheaCon. That was the start of my journey to return here.<\/p>\n

I\u2019ve been doing a lot of research on Ancestry.com to find out what I didn\u2019t know about my matriarchal ancestors. I only knew my great-grandmother\u2019s maiden name. When I had first visited the cemetery this past spring I noticed a lot of graves in front of a family plot I hadn\u2019t noticed before. They were really old and a lot smaller than the other family gravestones. And facing away from those other graves.<\/p>\n

When I first saw those small grave markers I thought, who are you? The dates on the graves seemed to indicate they might have been my great-grandmother\u2019s parents and siblings. I searched all the names on Ancestry.com and discovered those grave stones were indeed my great-great grandparents and their children. Wow, all these years later to find out who they were.<\/p>\n

My parents had never told me, and none of my siblings knew. But my father didn\u2019t exactly like his father-in-law, so nothing was ever said to me. When I was younger talking to my great-grandmother, I hadn\u2019t thought to ask her. She was born during the Civil War and I loved history. So most of my questions were about her life. She didn\u2019t tell me much about her husband, my great-grandfather, either. I only knew his name, and that was it.<\/p>\n

A lot of my two-hour visit at the cemetery, besides honoring the ancestors, was talking to my great-great-grandfather. I had a hint of who his mother was from Ancestry.com but I wasn\u2019t sure. All I knew was that it may have been Drusilla. And it wasn\u2019t my great-grandmother\u2019s mother, just her father\u2019s. I found out that divorces happened way back in the 1800\u2019s too. But my mission when I visited was to see if I could find Drusilla\u2019s grave. It was supposed to be somewhere in the cemetery, but the location wasn\u2019t on any records kept by the cemetery.<\/p>\n

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I knew her grave had to be in an older section of the cemetery. Image by cocoparisienne<\/a> via Pixabay.<\/em><\/figcaption><\/figure>\n

I asked for my great-great grandfather\u2019s help. I knew her grave had to be in an older section of the cemetery. I literally was \u201cguided\u201d to it by my intuition and, I believe, his help from the spirit world. I had seen a bad photo of it from the hints on my matriarchal search. I almost tripped over another possible ancestor\u2019s stone that was laying down covered with leaves. I looked up, and saw what I think is her grave stone.<\/p>\n

I\u2019ll have to go back and visit again. This time with water and a brush to clean off the old stones there. I knew when I moved back here that there was another reason for me to be here. Besides helping my younger sister who has some disabilities. One of the reasons was to find out who I\u2019m related to. But I also have vibes that there\u2019s also another reason as well. At least that\u2019s what the Tarot cards are telling me.<\/p>\n

Stay tuned for another chapter of exploring my matriarchal ancestors\u2026in the future\u2026<\/p>\n<\/body><\/html>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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