he<\/em> doing here? \u00a0Silly, really. We hadn\u2019t been a thing in years, nor would I want to be a thing with him now. I\u2019m married, happily, most days anyhow. So why would the sound of his voice elicit an array of reactions and memories, both good and bad?<\/p>\nOur romance, at least for me, was real and true. A storybook romance even. He didn\u2019t have to say anything, I\u2019d know what he was thinking (well, and I\u2019m psychic). He understood my crazy family dynamics and me his. We\u2019d spend hours on the telephone talking about everything and yet nothing too. Long drives in the country, radio blasting, and silence between us and yet it was so comfortable. Then a ring of commitment, a forever that I believed in and vows of eternity. But then the person who promised me the stars and the moon would become a stranger as quick as he became my best friend. But how? His mannerisms changed. His friends changed. His values and religious beliefs changed. It was as if the person I knew and loved, and all that was so familiar and comfortable. was abducted and replaced with someone else all together. Counselors called it a mid-life crisis. I called it divorce.<\/p>\n
There would be sporadic conversations throughout the years where I could still hear the person I used to love. Blink twice if this is the case the body snatchers and you need help I would joke. There would be no blinking, though. \u00a0I still saw and heard the person I loved, and yet it would turn out to simply be\u00a0a mirage. \u00a0Or denial. I had to eventually come to terms the\u00a0the person I knew and loved was gone. Dead to me, and that\u2019s the way he wanted it to be. \u00a0Didn\u2019t songs of our past make him<\/em> think of\u00a0our happy times together?\u00a0Or when he saw me, didn\u2019t he miss me like I missed him? No, he would tell me, that was long gone and he had moved on.<\/p>\nLife had to move on for me too. \u00a0Everybody has a break up story, but they didn\u2019t help and the break up handbook must\u2019ve been checked out of the library. Anyhow, my breakup\u00a0was worse than anyone else\u2019s, or so I narcissistically\u00a0felt at the time. I wasn\u2019t sure how to move on when I felt dead inside.<\/p>\n
Then one day the clouds seemed to not be as dense, and the next day after a bit more and so on. I realized that the person I was, wasn\u2019t the person I was becoming. She was strong, and brave, and deserved better than she was allowing. The rose colored glasses of the past were filed\u00a0away and I recognized that although I didn\u2019t know how to move on, life forced me to do just that and I had<\/em> moved on.<\/p>\nSlowly I turned to look at the person I used to love, to offer a polite hello, only to see that it wasn\u2019t\u00a0\u00a0him at all, just someone who sounded like him. \u00a0And I once again filed my memories away, deep in the file cabinet of life. Some days I think I need to do some shredding, but then I remind myself that I still loved,\u00a0that was real and true, I just don\u2019t love, or even like,\u00a0the stranger he became. The past reminds me of how far I\u2019ve come and all the wonderful things\u00a0that came after the pain, including the man who gifted me his last name on our autumn wedding \u00a0ten years ago.<\/p>\n
Moving on from the people that we once loved is one of the hardest things I\u2019ve ever had to do, but we are all entitled to our happily ever afters. They don\u2019t just up and knock on your door either, you have to move forward, work hard for it, trust in it, and allow it. I don\u2019t ever think you lose the love from your past, I think you just gain more love to share, and hopefully give it to a person who deserves to have your love. \u00a0I learned the hard way.<\/p>\n
Believe,<\/p>\n
Kristy Robinett<\/p>\n
About the Author<\/h3>\nKristy Robinett<\/b> (Livonia, MI) is a professional psychic medium. In addition to giving readings and teaching workshops, she uses her psychic skills to assist with police investigations. Kristy lectures across the country and has appeared on Fox News, ABC News<\/em>, and Coast to Coast<\/em>. She is also the author of It\u2019s a Wonderful Afterlife,\u00a0Forevermore \u2013 Guided in Spirit by Edgar Allan Poe<\/i>, Messenger Between Worlds \u2013 True Stories from a Psychic Medium<\/i>, Higher Intuitions Oracle<\/i>,\u00a0Ghosts of Southeast Michigan<\/em> and Michigan\u2019s Haunted Legends and Lore<\/em><\/i>. Visit her online at KristyRobinett.com.<\/em><\/div>\n<\/body><\/html>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"I was walking through a local mall when I heard a familiar voice. At first I cringed. What was he doing here? \u00a0Silly, really. We hadn\u2019t been a thing in years, nor would I want to be a thing with him now. I\u2019m married, happily, most days anyhow. So why would the sound of his […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1109,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[1],"tags":[392,652,396],"class_list":["post-1595","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-uncategorized","tag-love","tag-memories","tag-romance"],"yoast_head":"\n
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<\/a>I was walking through a local mall when I heard a familiar voice. At first I cringed. What was he<\/em> doing here? \u00a0Silly, really. We hadn\u2019t been a thing in years, nor would I want to be a thing with him now. I\u2019m married, happily, most days anyhow. So why would the sound of his voice elicit an array of reactions and memories, both good and bad?<\/p>\n