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\"\"<\/a>\u201cMom, you really need new furniture! Dale received a bonus check last week, let us buy you a new couch, and maybe a new chair too,\u201d Sarah exclaimed, as she sat down in her mom\u2019s living room. \u00a0<\/span><\/span><\/div>\n
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Nelly looked around her well loved, but worn home. She was proud of her house. She raised three boys, and one daughter in that three bedroom, one bath ranch, and spent over fifty very happy years with their dad and her sweetheart there. But when Ray passed away five years ago, she just didn\u2019t care so much about what looked like what, including herself, and most of all not her furniture.<\/span><\/div>\n
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The plaid couch, although out of style, was where she used to give Ray his nighttime coffee. When he got sick, he would sit there and she would cover him with his favorite blanket, give him his pills and they would talk about their younger days, and laugh and smile. That brown couch was where Ray took his last breath. Sarah didn\u2019t know it, but every night, Nelly would curl up on the eyesore of the itchy sofa and pretend that she could still hear Ray breathing, smell his soap and sometimes, well, sometimes she thought she could feel him touch her arm.<\/span><\/div>\n
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\u201cI don\u2019t need anything new, honey. I don\u2019t get company except for you and the kids, and I am comfortable.\u201d<\/span><\/div>\n
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Sarah sighed. She\u2019d seen her mom fade after her dad passed away, and although her house wasn\u2019t dirty, it was messy, which was highly unusual for her mom\u2019s personality. She knew it was depression, grief and sadness, but she wanted to help. Sarah followed her mom into the kitchen to help fix some hot tea. \u00a0<\/span><\/div>\n
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\u201cAnd look at this refrigerator, mom! This Christmas card is three years old!\u201d Sarah took a photo off marked with Merry Christmas 2000 on it and tossed it in the trash.<\/span><\/div>\n
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\u201cOh, is it?\u201d Nelly said, absently, while putting two cinnamon tea bags into the tea cups.<\/span><\/div>\n
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\u201cLeaving things like this won\u2019t bring dad back, ya know? What it\u2019s doing is taking up room for new things to happen. You, yourself, used to say that we needed to leave room in our hearts for God to fill it with the good. Do you think you deserve bad?\u201d<\/span><\/div>\n
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Nelly choked back the tears and quickly changed the subject to Sarah\u2019s work. Sarah knew her mom well enough to know when to drop a sore subject.<\/span><\/div>\n
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When dusk fell that evening, Nelly crawled on to the couch with Ray\u2019s blanket wrapped tight around her. I don\u2019t know if I deserve anything good to fill my heart, she cried. How could I possibly deserve more good than what I had? Oh, sure, not everything had been wonderful, but Nelly always tried to turn it into a positive, that is what Ray loved so much about her. The moment she buried her husband, she buried her will to see things in a positive light. She filled her heart space up with sadness and grief. As she pondered it all, she felt Ray softly touch her arm and heard him say, make space, Nel, make space.<\/span><\/div>\n
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She cried herself to sleep on the couch that night, wishing and hoping that the last five years had just been an awful nightmare.<\/span><\/div>\n
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The next morning she woke up stiff, but feeling a bit lighter, a bit freer. As she made her morning tea, she looked at the cluttered refrigerator and little by little began to organize the menus, photos, and past due bills into a pile to either file or pitch. She took a dish rag and wiped down the refrigerator door, horrified at the dust and dirt, and with fresh eyes looked around at her space to see \u2013 there just was none. She spent the rest of the day, throwing out old newspapers, food, junk mail and the like. And as she sat down on the couch, she called Sarah.<\/span><\/div>\n
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\u201cI heard what you said yesterday, Sarah, and I understand. I would like to take you up on your offer.\u201d<\/span><\/div>\n
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Before Sarah\u2019s mom could change her mind, she raced over to the house and took her to the furniture store, where they picked out a tasteful (and comfortable) tan couch and recliner chair.<\/span><\/div>\n
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As they placed it in the living room, pushing the old furniture aside, Sarah looked at her mom. \u201cYou okay?\u201d<\/span><\/div>\n
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Nelly nodded, and with tears in her eyes, took scissors and carefully began to cut away the material on the couch. Sarah looked on confused. \u201cI am going to wash and then make pillows. Not all old needs to be tossed \u2013 there is room for both.\u201d<\/span><\/div>\n
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How can you make space? You don\u2019t have to do it all at once, and it isn\u2019t necessarily just physical, but it can be digital (old emails, texts, Facebook friends that aren\u2019t needed or are negative) and emotional too. It takes baby steps, sometimes a friend by your side helps to put things in perspective, and knowing that not everything needs to be tossed. As everything is energy, even the smallest changes and movements create space. \u00a0<\/span><\/div>\n
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Once you begin to clear, you will notice your possibilities expanding.<\/span><\/em><\/div>\n
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I remember a time when I wanted so badly to leave a certain job, and although I was sending out resumes, there were no other opportunities coming. So I began to clean my office and desk. I removed pictures (things that can ground you to a certain location) and my plants, and organized the office so that when I did receive a job offer, I could pretty much walk out the door. Two days after the cleanse, I received a fabulous job offer. I made space.<\/span><\/div>\n
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The same thing can work for love. If you are opening your closet and looking at your old wedding rings, photo albums, and\/or bridal gown and yet wondering where your new romance is \u2013 you need to make space. I\u2019m not saying pitch it all, but box it away, and make sure to cut the emotional cords to the past romance so as to make space for the new. Some believe that a new bed helps brings new romance, if the old furniture came from the past relationship. Since beds and mattresses are expensive, you can instead ceremoniously wipe down old energy, and buy new sheets.<\/span><\/div>\n
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So many want to know why this or that isn\u2019t happening their life, and many times it is as simple as they haven\u2019t moved on or made space. I thought\u00a0this article<\/a>\u00a0fit perfectly and although it is a weight loss article, it symbolically makes sense for ridding yourself of the extra weight of (emotional\/physical\/mental\/digital) clutter.<\/span><\/div>\n
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One thing at a time. One small step. That\u2019s all it takes to begin, and soon larger strides will happen which will help you MAKE SPACE.<\/span><\/div>\n
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\u201cYou must make a decision that you are going to move on. It won\u2019t happen automatically. You will have to rise up and say, \u2018I don\u2019t care how hard this is, I don\u2019t care how disappointed I am, I\u2019m not going to let this get the best of me. I\u2019m moving on with my life.\u201d
\n\u2015\u00a0Joel Osteen<\/span><\/div>\n<\/body><\/html>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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