{"id":5198,"date":"2013-03-21T17:39:24","date_gmt":"2013-03-21T17:39:24","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.patheos.com\/blogs\/altmuslim\/?p=5198"},"modified":"2013-03-21T17:50:28","modified_gmt":"2013-03-21T17:50:28","slug":"the-blessed-ones-helping-families-with-special-needs-in-our-communities","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.patheos.com\/blogs\/altmuslim\/2013\/03\/the-blessed-ones-helping-families-with-special-needs-in-our-communities\/","title":{"rendered":"The Blessed Ones — Helping Families with Special Needs in our Communities"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<\/head>

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Sarah and her younger brother Muneer, who is one of her best friends.<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n<\/p>

By Salim Patel<\/strong><\/p>\n

SMILE for Charity, a local non-profit located in Northern New Jersey, recently had the blessed opportunity to host a very special group.\u00a0\u00a0As I looked around the room I felt a wide range of raw emotions emanating from the group.\u00a0Emotions usually kept hidden, but on this occasion, that was not necessary.<\/p>\n

I saw hope.<\/p>\n

Despair.<\/p>\n

Worry.<\/p>\n

Agitation.<\/p>\n

Empathy.<\/p>\n

Concern.<\/p>\n

Happiness.<\/p>\n

But most importantly, I saw love.<\/p>\n

I introduced myself but could not help feeling out of place, as I was the only one in the room who did not have an\u00a0immediate<\/em>\u00a0reason to be there. The warm greetings and smiles from the assembled group quickly dispelled that awkwardness. That told me that I was now one of them and I eased back into my chair hoping to learn from this group of heroes.<\/p>\n

A few others were new to the group. Sitting to my left, a lady started to share her story in Arabic with bits of English interspersed. One did not need to know Arabic to understand her story.\u00a0The detail that I heard crystal clear was \u201cDown Syndrome,\u201d followed by a \u201cWhy me?\u201d Upon first hearing the news, she said that despair was her initial reaction. After holding her newborn she quickly realized, \u201cMy daughter does not have a disability \u2026 just a\u00a0different-<\/em>ability. She is a gift from Allah.\u201d<\/p>\n

Her story stirred the soul, and the entire room quickly filled with tears, with some escaping for air and tissues. A father (and the only other male in the group) spoke about how the community he came from condemned and judged him when his child was born with a \u201cdisability.\u201d They asked him what sins he committed to be punished by Allah with this \u201caffliction.\u201d<\/p>\n

A mother of two special needs children asked, \u201cI am getting older. Who will take care of them when I die?\u201d Another, the most vocal member of the group, talked about how her husband refused to accept their \u201cdisabled\u201d child and walked out on the family. She has been raising her son on her own for the last eight years while \u201cholding down\u201d two jobs.<\/p>\n

The ethos at SMILE has always been to serve the most marginalized within our communities.\u00a0 We are opening our doors to all those who feel they or their loved ones have no space for healing or (and more importantly) nurturing.<\/p>\n

This was why they were in the room \u2014 to console and support one another. Their children are Jannah-bound<\/em> (heaven-bound) they said.\u00a0In that, they find comfort and solace. They keep each other\u2019s spirits high and continue their struggle. They show each other where to get more support and resources. They share best practices and shoulders to cry on. They love each other unconditionally.<\/p>\n

What makes this love possible? They have all have walked miles in each other\u2019s shoes.<\/p>\n

The real question is \u2014 when will we walk in theirs?<\/p>\n

For those interested in joining the on-going conversation & program development for addressing Special Needs in the Muslim Community please email<\/em> info@smileforcharity<\/a>.<\/p>\n

\"\"<\/a>Salim Patel is the Chairman of the SMILE Organization, a local non-profit that provides a food pantry and a free health clinic to all residents in need in Passaic County, New Jersey. \u00a0SMILE also offers social services specific to the Muslim Community in oft-neglected areas.\u00a0\u00a0Additionally, Salim serves in elected office as President of the Passaic Board of Education, one of the larger school districts in New Jersey.\u00a0\u00a0During his tenure, the Board formed a Special Needs Committee to specifically address the needs and concerns of that student population.\u00a0\u00a0He regularly meets with parents of the special needs population to hear their concerns and to see how the Board can better implement policy to serve their needs.<\/em><\/p>\n<\/body><\/html>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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