We can begin about 12 months ago, when an ex-girlfriend asked me, \u201cwhat is it that you want in a woman in a relationship?\u201d Now, forget about my fumbled, bumbled, idiotic answer at the time (I already have), and think about an answer that builds from the \u2018magic triad\u2019.<\/p>\n
First, I want beauty<\/span>, I want attraction<\/span>. I want her smile to make me forget myself and her eyes to make me forget the world. I want chemistry <\/span>and that feeling of \u2018wow!\u2019 whenever she enters the room. I want grace <\/span>and confidence<\/span>.<\/p>\n Grace <\/span>and confidence <\/span>are intimately mingled with goodness. <\/span><\/span><\/span><\/span><\/span><\/span>Martin Luther King Jr., Princess Diana, people with goodness <\/span>deep within their hearts, whose actions are always with others<\/span> in mind, never selfish, these are people with true grace<\/span> and confidence.<\/span> I want a woman whose care for the world is so deep that it is the suffering of others, not her own, that makes her cry. It is that<\/span> goodness <\/span><\/span>that goes beyond mere attraction to a level of more intimate togetherness<\/span>.<\/p>\n Finally, one realizes that even togetherness<\/span> is subject to change. We must go deeper still. We must unravel the very source <\/span>of one another\u2019s goodness<\/span>, to know whether our sources speak from the same truth<\/span>. We must come to some common agreements about some of the big questions in life. It is only here, in truth,<\/span> that we reach common notions that go beyond the ever-changing craziness of our lives. Even feelings of togetherness<\/span>, in any relationship, are sometimes lost for a time. It is at these times that most relationships end; but those who have achieved a common truth<\/span>, who have achieved unity<\/span> will survive these times and come back to a togetherness<\/span> and an attraction<\/span> that is deeper than ever.<\/p>\n (hint: start at the beginning) The Magic of \u2018three\u2019. Is there such a thing? If so, perhaps we could find ways of applying it in our lives (e.g. in relationships). To be honest I first thought of a three-fold understanding of relationships about two years ago, but it is only with this more recent framework […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":118,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[1],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-782","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-uncategorized"],"yoast_head":"\n![\"\"](\"https:\/\/blogger.googleusercontent.com\/tracker\/7907151-113514847710052942?l=americanbuddhist.blogspot.com\")