{"id":296,"date":"2015-01-03T01:31:01","date_gmt":"2015-01-03T05:31:01","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/admin.patheos.com\/blogs\/ashleywillis\/?p=296"},"modified":"2015-04-23T11:46:25","modified_gmt":"2015-04-23T15:46:25","slug":"10-questions-your-wife-asks-herself-everyday","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.patheos.com\/blogs\/ashleywillis\/2015\/01\/10-questions-your-wife-asks-herself-everyday\/","title":{"rendered":"10 Questions Your Wife Asks Herself Everyday"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<\/head>

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When my husband, Dave, and I started dating, I would frequently ask him what he was thinking about whenever we had a pause in our conversation.<\/p>\n

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He was so sweet to try and give me a reasonable answer, even though I am sure this practice became kind of annoying to him. \u00a0I don\u2019t ask him that question as often anymore, but I still sometimes wonder what he is thinking. \u00a0Recently, he wrote an interesting blog about this very subject (\u201c9 Things Your Husband is Always Thinking About\u201d<\/a>) and challenged me to do the same. \u00a0I honestly laughed at the prospect because he had a concise list of nine, and I didn\u2019t know where to start with making a list for women (since we think a million or so thoughts a day). \u00a0However, I am going to try since communication and mutual understanding are both essential to a thriving marriage. \u00a0So, here goes. \u00a0Husbands, here are 10 questions your wife asks herself everyday (in no particular order):<\/p>\n

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1. \u00a0What is on the to-do list today (and can I do it all)?<\/strong><\/p>\n

As women, we wear a lot of hats. \u00a0Many of us have husbands, kids, jobs, homes, errands to run, and the list goes on. \u00a0We could spend a whole day taking care of each of these, but we have to prioritize. \u00a0So, most days, women are trying to do just that\u2026take care of our loved ones and the many duties that come along with them. \u00a0Oops, I forgot to put ourselves on the list, but this is often how it goes.<\/p>\n

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2. Does my husband still find me desirable?<\/strong><\/p>\n

This thought has nothing to do with confidence or even how we look. \u00a0It has everything to do with the relationship we have with our husbands. \u00a0We want to know that he still thinks we are \u201csmokin\u2019 hot\u201d, as my husband says. \u00a0We want to know that he only has eyes for us. \u00a0Women long to be adored and prized, whether we are ill, pregnant, a little heavy, or too thin. \u00a0As wives, we are willing to do things to make ourselves attractive to our spouses, and we want them to notice! \u00a0Husbands, we see the way you look at us, and we hear your words loud and clear. \u00a0We want to know that you find us desirable on all levels; sexually (you love our body), mentally (you love our thoughts), and emotionally (you love our hearts). \u00a0Let us know that we love being with us.<\/p>\n

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For more on developing a more intimate marriage, check out our latest video series,\u00a0\u201cBest Sex Life Now\u201d<\/a>.<\/p>\n

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3. \u00a0Am I succeeding at my job?<\/strong><\/p>\n

Just like men, women want to do the best job we can. \u00a0We work hard, and we want our hard work to pay off.<\/p>\n

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4. \u00a0Do I have my priorities in line?<\/strong><\/p>\n

As I mentioned before, women wear many hats, and it is very difficult to juggle our many duties. \u00a0As a wife and mother, I have felt \u201cmommy guilt\u201d when it comes to balancing duties at work and home. \u00a0We want to be the best wife and mother possible while also having a successful career, if we are working outside of the home. \u00a0It\u2019s a daily struggle to be carefully handled with lots of \u00a0prayer.<\/p>\n

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5. \u00a0Am I a good wife?<\/strong><\/p>\n

Marriage is a blessing, and we want to get it right. \u00a0Sometimes, our husbands can get placed on the back burner, and then, we start to see our relationship suffer. \u00a0Husbands, we want to know that we are meeting your needs on all levels as much as we can. \u00a0Many times, we are more willing to share our needs with our husbands more than they are willing to share their needs with us. \u00a0We aren\u2019t mind readers! \u00a0The more honest we can be with each other, the better. \u00a0So, husbands, let us know, so we can be the best wives possible!<\/p>\n

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6. Am I a good mother?<\/strong><\/p>\n

In my current stage of life, I think I might word this question more like \u201cAm I messing up my kids?\u201d. \u00a0Parenting is hard! \u00a0It\u2019s honestly the hardest thing I have done thus far, and I don\u2019t take it lightly. \u00a0When we receive the blessing of motherhood, we immediately receive the weight that comes with it. \u00a0We have visions of horror in thinking that thirty years down the road our grown children will have major issues and find us to blame. \u00a0If only I had made him his favorite breakfast every morning, he would have felt more loved! \u00a0If only I had been a little harder on him and had him do more chores, he wouldn\u2019t be so lazy! \u00a0The struggle is real and messy, Folks. \u00a0Again, we just want to get it right.<\/p>\n

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7. \u00a0Am I enough?<\/strong><\/p>\n

Sometimes, I don\u2019t feel like there is enough of me to go around, and it can be exhausting. \u00a0When I was teaching, I would wake up and pour into my husband and kiddos and spend some time in prayer. \u00a0Once I arrived at school, I would pour into my students. \u00a0Once I got back home, I would make dinner for my family, run my kids to their various activities, and end the day by pouring into my husband and kids once again. \u00a0I was honestly a shell of a person. \u00a0I had been pouring out all day into the ones I love and doing \u00a0something I loved to do, but I was completely spent. \u00a0I would often lie in bed and think to myself \u201cAm I enough?\u201d. \u00a0I think many women find themselves in the same boat. \u00a0We often do so much but have so little to show for it at the time. \u00a0We just want to know that we ARE enough.<\/p>\n

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8. \u00a0Am I respectable?<\/strong><\/p>\n

It has often been said that men desire respect and women want to be loved, over all. \u00a0I think this is true on many levels, but I think that women have a strong desire for respect as well. \u00a0We want to know that our husbands, kids, friends, and coworkers respect us. \u00a0We don\u2019t like to be disrespected just like anyone else.<\/p>\n

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9. \u00a0When can I get a break?<\/strong><\/p>\n

Okay, let\u2019s be honest. \u00a0We\u2019ve talked A LOT about the many duties we carry as women, and most of the time, we are happy to carry all of these out. \u00a0Sometimes, we just want a break. \u00a0It could be a date night with our hubby, a girls night out with our friends, or just a lazy, quiet night watching our favorite television shows and a big scoop of ice cream (or glass of wine, or hey, let\u2019s be real\u2026both). \u00a0For some reason, we feel guilty about needing this time, but everyone needs time to chill. \u00a0Taking a couple of hours a week to reconnect with our husband, friends, or even ourself is needed to lead a balanced life. \u00a0So, ladies, let\u2019s stop feeling guilty about this and give ourselves a break!<\/p>\n

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10. \u00a0Am I making a difference?<\/strong><\/p>\n

As a Christian, I think this might be the most important question I can ask myself. \u00a0No matter where you might be in your faith, I truly believe that God designed each and every one of us with a significant purpose on Earth. \u00a0Whether big or small, each of us has something good to offer the world. \u00a0As women, we want to know that all the time and effort we put into our family, friendships, churches, charities\/ministries, and work is achieving a greater purpose and making the world a better place.<\/p>\n

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