Grumpy Husband at the End of the Day? Here’s How to Change That

Don’t Take It Personally!

When we don’t realize that this is a legitimate need of most men, we end up taking it personally, and that creates problems! Some men in my interviews told me that it was so difficult for their wife to let them have the buffer zone without getting upset (“Don’t you care about me?”) that they had to drive around the neighborhood or go to a bar for happy hour for forty-five minutes. They knew that was the only way they would be able to decompress enough that they could handle what they would be hit with when they walked in the door. And that’s a shame. Because most of the men told me they preferred the comfort of being able to come home to their wife and kids and decompress there—as long as they were indeed allowed to decompress. Most men don’t want to be Grumpy, after all!