{"id":3474,"date":"2017-07-17T15:44:05","date_gmt":"2017-07-17T19:44:05","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/sixseeds.patheos.com\/askshaunti\/?p=3474"},"modified":"2024-09-20T12:54:26","modified_gmt":"2024-09-20T16:54:26","slug":"3-sneaky-ways-youre-making-yourself-stressed","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.patheos.com\/blogs\/askshaunti\/2017\/07\/3-sneaky-ways-youre-making-yourself-stressed\/","title":{"rendered":"3 Sneaky Ways You\u2019re Making Yourself Stressed"},"content":{"rendered":"<!DOCTYPE html PUBLIC \"-\/\/W3C\/\/DTD HTML 4.0 Transitional\/\/EN\" \"http:\/\/www.w3.org\/TR\/REC-html40\/loose.dtd\">\n<html><head><meta http-equiv=\"content-type\" content=\"text\/html; charset=utf-8\"><meta http-equiv=\"content-type\" content=\"text\/html; charset=utf-8\"><\/head><body><p><div class=\"patheos-gallery\"><div class=\"gallery-image-container\">\n    <img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/wp-media.patheos.com\/blogs\/sites\/392\/2017\/07\/bethany-fankhauser-311248-1024x819-550x550.jpg\" alt=\"Tweet this: \"We can\u2019t feed fear (aka: worry) and then complain that we\u2019re anxious and stressed!\"\" class=\"img-responsive\">\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"gallery-blurb\"><!DOCTYPE html PUBLIC \"-\/\/W3C\/\/DTD HTML 4.0 Transitional\/\/EN\" \"http:\/\/www.w3.org\/TR\/REC-html40\/loose.dtd\">\n<html><head><meta http-equiv=\"content-type\" content=\"text\/html; charset=utf-8\"><meta http-equiv=\"content-type\" content=\"text\/html; charset=utf-8\"><\/head><body><p><a href=\"http:\/\/wp.sixseeds.production.patheos.com\/askshaunti\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/26\/2017\/07\/bethany-fankhauser-311248.jpg\" rel=\"attachment wp-att-3475\" class=\" decorated-link\" target=\"_blank\"><\/a><\/p>\n<p>Do you have any idea what is the most frequent command in the Bible?\u00a0 Believe it or not, it is <i>not <\/i>to \u201clove one another\u201d (although that\u2019s up there!).\u00a0Instead, the most frequent command \u2014 used more than 70 times \u2014 is \u201cdo not be afraid.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>We don\u2019t really realize it, but we humans are prone to fear!\u00a0We subconsciously feed it, nurture it, and accommodate it.\u00a0All too often, we tuck a little fear center into our mind and heart, and make sure it is always turned on.<\/p>\n<p>Don\u2019t believe me?\u00a0What if I used the word \u201cworry\u201d instead of fear?<\/p>\n<p>Oh.\u00a0Right.\u00a0Now, many of us can relate. I sure can.\u00a0And during my research for <i><a href=\"https:\/\/www.amazon.com\/Kindness-Challenge-Thirty-Improve-Relationship\/dp\/1601421222\" target=\"_blank\" class=\" decorated-link\" rel=\"nofollow\">The Kindness Challenge<\/a><\/i><i> <\/i>I realized: We can\u2019t feed fear (aka: worry) and then complain that we\u2019re anxious and stressed! \u00a0 We\u2019ve got to look for and confront the ways we are <i>causing<\/i> the very anxiety we wish we didn\u2019t have.<\/p>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/twitter.com\/intent\/tweet?text=We%20can't%20feed%20fear%20(aka:%20worry)%20and%20then%20complain%20that%20we're%20anxious%20and%20stressed!%20via%20@ShauntiFeldhahn\" target=\"_blank\" class=\" decorated-link\" rel=\"nofollow\"><\/a><strong>Tweet this: \u201c<a href=\"https:\/\/twitter.com\/intent\/tweet?text=We%20can't%20feed%20fear%20(aka:%20worry)%20and%20then%20complain%20that%20we're%20anxious%20and%20stressed!%20via%20@ShauntiFeldhahn\" target=\"_blank\" class=\" decorated-link\" rel=\"nofollow\">We can\u2019t feed fear (aka: worry) and then complain that we\u2019re anxious and stressed!<\/a>\u201c<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>So here are three sneaky ways we\u2019re causing our own stress \u2014 and how to eliminate them!<\/p>\n<\/body><\/html>\n<\/div>\n\n<!-- MOBILE AD -->\n<div class=\"col-xs-12 visible-xs-block\">\n    <div class=\"ad ad-container visible-xs-block\" id=\"incontent-mobile\" style=\"height: 320px !important;\"><\/div><\/div><div class=\"by-line clearfix pull-left wide-decorated\">\n    <div class=\"pull-left\">Slide: 1 <i class=\"styled\">of<\/i> 5<\/div>\n    <\/div><!-- START GALLERY CONTROLS BUTTONS -->\n\t<div class=\"patheos-gallery-control\">\n\t\t\t\t<a href=\"https:\/\/www.patheos.com\/blogs\/askshaunti\/2017\/07\/3-sneaky-ways-youre-making-yourself-stressed\/2\/\" class=\"full-width btn btn-prime-1 continue-btn fc-preview-contextmenu\"><i class=\"glyphicon glyphicon-chevron-right pull-right\"><\/i>Continue Reading<\/a>\n\t\t\t<\/div>\n<!-- END GALLERY CONTROLS BUTTONS --><\/div>\n<\/p><\/body><\/html>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Do you have any idea what is the most frequent command in the Bible?\u00a0 Believe it or not, it is not to \u201clove one another\u201d (although that\u2019s up there!).\u00a0Instead, the most frequent command \u2014 used more than 70 times \u2014&#8230;<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1684,"featured_media":3475,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[5434],"tags":[52,36,5465],"class_list":["post-3474","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-kindness","tag-conflict","tag-kindness","tag-stress"],"yoast_head":"<!-- This site is optimized with the Yoast SEO plugin v21.1 - 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