{"id":8175,"date":"2014-01-30T21:19:35","date_gmt":"2014-01-31T03:19:35","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.patheos.com\/blogs\/buildingcathedrals\/?p=8175"},"modified":"2014-01-30T21:19:35","modified_gmt":"2014-01-31T03:19:35","slug":"i-love-it-when-a-good-plan-comes-together","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.patheos.com\/blogs\/buildingcathedrals\/2014\/01\/i-love-it-when-a-good-plan-comes-together\/","title":{"rendered":"I love it when a good plan comes together"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<\/head>

On Tuesday afternoon my kind mother in law was at my house, planning to stay through the evening while my husband and I went out to eat with an anniversary gift certificate. \u00a0I was out picking up one and dropping off another, as I often am from 3-5 pm these days, when I got a gentle text: \u00a0Alice, is there a plan for dinner?<\/p>\n

Sheepishly I called her back. \u00a0Um, no, there is no plan for dinner. \u00a0I\u2019m pretty sure there is enough pasta left in the pantry and a jar of sauce, and half a head of lettuce, will that do? \u00a0Graciously she poked around and gathered enough food to make something out of very little. \u00a0I stopped at a nice bakery and bought a loaf of good bread to round out the meal. \u00a0Back home, I admitted that we were also out of paper towels. \u00a0Lotion for the baby\u2019s chapped face? \u00a0I used to have some, maybe in the car? \u00a0It was pathetic.<\/p>\n

The next morning I spoke on the phone with my mother in law, out of sorts about how, well, out of sorts our home life seems to be. \u00a0The flip side is that we are extremely happy in the winter, skiing every weekend, cozy at home during the week, getting lots of school done and playing board games together. \u00a0But things are slipping through the cracks. \u00a0It doesn\u2019t help that my slow cooker is at the ski place. \u00a0My mother in law seriously has her act together, so I was looking for some advice on how to get my behind in gear. \u00a0What I got instead was totally unexpected and a huge gift: encouragement to cut myself some slack. \u00a0Yes, she said, she too had seasons like this in her life as a mother, and frozen pizza or scrambled eggs make a perfectly fine dinner. \u00a0Pancakes served at the kitchen counter are like a party to your kids, even if it feels like failure to you. \u00a0Your son just told me yesterday that his favorite dinner is grilled cheese sandwiches! \u00a0Try for a \u201creal\u201d dinner two or three nights a week, she told me, and be gentle with yourself. \u00a0What you are doing on the weekends is important, she told me, for the family time, for the people you are serving, and for the joy and fulfillment that it is bringing to you personally. \u00a0What a relief it was to be confirmed at that moment.<\/p>\n

So, in the cutting myself some slack but still desperate mode, I spent an hour while my kids were in art class at the local, really expensive grocery store. \u00a0You\u2019ve got to do what you\u2019ve got to do, I thought, and expensive groceries are still cheaper than takeout, right? \u00a0So this might be a workable patch for a little while? \u00a0Wrong. \u00a0I spent close to $300 on food for three days plus the many staples that we were out of (baby wipes, paper towels, salt\u2026it goes on). \u00a0When feeding so many people, it turns out that small differences in prices really matter, and this is especially true when indulging in already more expensive convenience foods. \u00a0For example, the organic pizza I buy is usually $5.99, and there it was $9.99. \u00a0We eat three of them in a dinner, so we are talking about a $12 difference. \u00a0Multiply that out by three meals a day, five days a week, and it is impossible.<\/p>\n

Then, just to make it even more obvious, this morning we ran out of diapers. \u00a0After some silent prayers I found a stash in a diaper bag that will get us through the next 24 hours, but here I was again hitting up against reality \u2014 errands must be done. \u00a0Sure, many things can be ordered, but that still needs to be done, and it needed to be done before we hit the bottom of the box!<\/p>\n

Elizabeth<\/a> posted something beautiful about Candlemas and when I read her post all I could think was sure, all that cozy candlelit time is great, but how am I going to get groceries into this house? \u00a0Gracious as always, Elizabeth responded in the comments with some details about the different ways that she has grocery shopped in different seasons of life. \u00a0One emphasis stuck out for me: \u00a0she always had a list and a plan.<\/p>\n

I think that I have always been put off by menu planning because I thought I had to menu plan good meals \u2014 how can I write \u201cscrambled eggs and english muffins\u201d on a date on the calendar, if I am going to actually plan something, shouldn\u2019t it be better than that? \u00a0Well, it turns out, not necessarily.<\/p>\n

I thought and prayed about this all morning while I homeschooled. \u00a0Right now, I can\u2019t get up in the early mornings, and if I shop during the day I miss out on a day of school work, which really throws us off. \u00a0My students are in between being young enough to miss a day and old enough to work on their own while I\u2019m at the market, they need me there with them in the school room every single morning. \u00a0My big kids need me home in the later afternoon and evening to help with algebra and to talk through the day.<\/p>\n

By quiet time today I had an idea \u2014 I thought about the meat in my freezer, delivered twice a year. \u00a0I wished that I could have my pantry stocked the same way. \u00a0The more I thought about it, I realized that I probably couldn\u2019t stock my pantry for six months, but I could stock it for one month \u2014 once a month grocery shopping.<\/p>\n

We buy many of our staples at SAMs, and my husband usually takes care of that. \u00a0Actually, diapers are on that list, so I don\u2019t know why I am feeling so guilt about that one. Funny how the men never feel crummy when the wheels are coming off at home. \u00a0But, I digress\u2026we have tried a few times to make SAMs our actual grocery store, but they don\u2019t have enough of the food that we really eat.<\/p>\n

We get our milk and bread from a local dairy market each week, so that would leave just vegetables to buy. \u00a0I could probably afford to pay a little more for those at the market near our activities if I had everything else already planned, or I could place a Fresh Direct order for produce only.<\/p>\n

So \u2014 as an experiment, I printed out our calendar for February. \u00a0I planned every single dinner for the entire month. \u00a0Many of the meals are simple things like grilled cheese and tomato soup, but they are planned. \u00a0I wrote all the non-perishables on my list, and then made a week by week list of perishable items I would need to add. \u00a0Then I got really smart, because it occurred to me that we eat a lot more than dinner in this house. \u00a0I designated three fruits, a veggie snack, a fun snack (like pretzels) and a dessert item for each week. \u00a0I chose a breakfast cereal for each week and added that to the list.<\/p>\n

Now, I have a shopping list for each week that includes fewer than 15 items. \u00a0I am going to check expiration dates, because some things like yogurt might have to be bought every other week rather than once a month, I\u2019m not sure yet. \u00a0That week by week list is posted on the fridge. If we run out of non perishable things, like mustard, I am going to add them both to the list for the week and to the monthly planning list, so that we are better stocked in the future.<\/p>\n

I also made the milk market list more specific, ie on the week that I am serving pulled pork, we will need rolls for that in addition to our regular bread.<\/p>\n

I have a HUGE shopping list for the month, 8 cans of soup (two dinners), 4 boxes of lasagna, 5 boxes each of three different kinds of cereal. I will need help from my middle kids, and probably several carts, and I will need to figure out how to organize it in the pantry at home, but tomorrow morning we are going to go out and seriously stock up.<\/p>\n

We can lose one morning a month, rather than one a week, to grocery shopping, and I can do the rest while they are at art or choir. \u00a0If this works, in late February I can plan the March menus. \u00a0I hope to save my scribbled calendar so that I can pull those same meals to plug in here and there, so doing this should get easier as I go along. \u00a0I also hope to take notes \u2014 I have no idea how many yogurts to buy for a month, for example, I just buy a random number and then if we run out I put them on the list and buy a random number again the next week. \u00a0Isn\u2019t that stupid? \u00a0I can\u2019t believe I have been doing it that way for so long.<\/p>\n

I can\u2019t tell you how good it feels to have the whole month planned, and it took ONE QUIET TIME \u2014 NOT QUIET TIME ONCE A WEEK.<\/p>\n

After writing this post, I am going to Amazon and ordering a second slow cooker. \u00a0I just use it too much, we eat out of it every Saturday night up there, but I need it here as well. \u00a0This is worth it.<\/p>\n

The shopping tomorrow is going to be exhausting and the putting away overwhelming, I am bracing myself, but I really think that this is going to work!<\/p>\n

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