Even though same-sex marriage is legal in all fifty states, \u201cTwenty nine states lack anti-discrimination laws<\/span><\/a> that include sexual orientation or gender identity, and there is no federal law protecting access to employment, housing and public accommodation, like hotels or restaurants.\u201d In the words of one activist<\/span><\/a>, \u201cIn a lot of places, you can [now] go to your county clerk, get a marriage license, get married, and then get fired the next week because now you are openly gay.\u201d<\/b> <\/span><\/p>\n Relatedly, there has been a lot of recent controversy around \u201ca North Carolina law passed in March [that] made it illegal for transgender people to use public restrooms that match their gender identity.\u201d In Maryland, the state where I live, a transgender rights law<\/span><\/a> was finally passed in 2014. But work remains to be done in many surrounding states and across the country to ensure the rights of the \u201c1.4 million adults in the United States [who] identify as transgender<\/b><\/span><\/a>.\u201d <\/span><\/p>\n And the issue is not only North Carolina. To date, twenty-one states are suing \u201cthe federal government\u2026over a directive to public schools on bathroom use by transgender students<\/span><\/a>.\u201d Regarding this debate, the single best advice I can give is to \u201c<\/b>trust that individuals know which restroom is most comfortable and appropriate for them<\/b><\/span><\/a>.\u201d<\/b><\/span><\/p>\n To briefly address the most basic terminology, many people are more familiar with the term transgender than with the term cisgender. The term transgender<\/b> adds the Latin prefix \u201ctrans<\/i>-\u201d (meaning \u201con the other side of\u201d) <\/b>to indicate a person whose gender identity or gender expression does not match their biological sex. Cisgender<\/b> adds the Latin prefix cis<\/i>-, (meaning \u201con this side of\u201d), indicating a person, whose gender identity and gender expression for the most part matches the sex they were assigned at birth. Speaking for myself, owning the label cisgender<\/i> helps me to resist the all-too-common perception that transgender folk are deviant from an alleged \u201cnorm,\u201d instead of seeing both cisgender and<\/i> transgender as two (among many) legitimate points on a continuum than spans the diverse human condition.<\/b> <\/span><\/p>\n Along these lines, I would like to share with you the single most useful tool I have found for understanding how all the various identities interrelate and where we human beings<\/i> can find ourselves in all our diversity<\/b> \u2014 represented by the lengthening acronyms of LGBTAIQ<\/a>. This teaching\u00a0tool, called\u00a0The Genderbread Person<\/a><\/strong>\u00a0<\/span><\/span>is a playful attempt to visualize Gender Identity, Gender Expression, Biological Sex, and Sexual Attraction. The biggest \u201caha!\u201d moment for me was noticing that these four different attributes are each<\/i> on different, non-intersecting lines. <\/b>Any given individual might identify at any point on each of these four lines.<\/span><\/p>\n Starting at the top of the chart<\/a>. Gender Identity<\/b> is in your mind<\/i>: inside your head, do you think of yourself as more of a woman, man, or somewhere in between (irrespective of biology, whom you are attracted to, or how you express yourself)?<\/span><\/p>\n Gender Expression<\/b> is the dotted line: how you appear externally<\/i>. <\/i>In your clothes and behavior, do you present yourself to others as masculine, feminine, androgynous, or gender fluid? <\/span><\/p>\n The third category, attraction, <\/b>is in your heart<\/i>:<\/b> are you are sexually (and\/or romantically) attracted to men\/males\/masculinity, women\/females\/femininity, both, or neither?<\/span><\/p>\n Finally, there is a spectrum regarding Biological Sex<\/b>. And it is helpful to remember that someone who is intersexual has a chromosomal genotype or sexual phenotype other than a simple XY-male and XX-female. <\/span><\/p>\n According to the Intersex Society of North America<\/span><\/a>, \u201cIf you ask experts at medical centers how often a child is born so noticeably atypical in terms of genitalia that a specialist in sex differentiation is called in, the number comes out to about <\/b> 1-in-1500 to 1-in-2000 <\/b>births. But a lot more people than that are born with subtler forms of sex anatomy variations, some of which won\u2019t show up until later in life.\u201d Relatedly, a professor of Anatomy and Physiology reminded me <\/b>The Unitarian Universalist Association has also published a helpful list of \u201c<\/b>10 Ways to be More Welcoming and Inclusive of Transgender People<\/b><\/span><\/a>.\u201d <\/b>For now, I\u2019ll limit myself to highlighting only a few points, but I encourage\u00a0you to read and reflect on the full list.<\/span><\/p>\n Number one is a good starting point: \u201cAvoid making assumptions about gender identity or sexual orientation.\u201d <\/b>You can avoid a lot of confusion, awkwardness, or unintentional insults by avoiding assumptions. <\/span><\/p>\n Skipping to number three, \u201cDo not assume a trans person wants to speak about trans issues and only trans issues.\u201d<\/b> A related mistake is rushing to introduce a visitor who is transgender to another person who is transgender. To risk being frank, this mistake is also often made with young people, people of color \u2014 or anyone else who differs from the alleged norm of the straight, white, cisgendered, able-bodied male. Instead, the recommended best practice, as you can perhaps guess, is to treat people as human beings and get to know each person as an individual.<\/b><\/span><\/p>\n For now, I will conclude\u00a0with a few thoughts directly inspired by Leslie Feinberg\u2019s book TransLiberation: Beyond Pink and Blue<\/i><\/span><\/a>:<\/span><\/p>\n The truth that gender is a spectrum<\/i> that doesn\u2019t always match the biological sex one is assigned at birth is a truth that is as clear to me as every little \u201cboy\u201d who has been teased for being a sissy or every little \u201cgirl\u201d who has ever been derisively called a tomboy.<\/span><\/p>\n The need for greater gender freedom and fluidity<\/i> is, <\/i>likewise, as clear to me as the need to create a world in which no child is ever mocked for their gender expression \u2014 whether masculine, feminine, both, or somewhere in between. <\/span><\/p>\n We already live in a world in which the \u201crace box\u201d is optional or expanded on many forms. The trans-liberation movement challenges us that the \u201cgender box\u201d should also be optional, eliminated, or divided into many more options. <\/span><\/p>\n I invite you reflect on how you individually \u2014 or we collectively \u2014 may be called to be part of building a more gender-liberated world.<\/i><\/span><\/p>\n The Rev. Dr. Carl Gregg is a trained spiritual director, a D.Min. graduate of San Francisco Theological Seminary,\u00a0and the minister of the\u00a0Unitarian Universalist Congregation of Frederick<\/a>, Maryland.\u00a0Follow him on\u00a0Facebook<\/a>\u00a0(facebook.com\/carlgregg) and\u00a0Twitter<\/a>\u00a0(@carlgregg).<\/em><\/p>\n![\"SexEd\"](\"https:\/\/wp-media.patheos.com\/blogs\/sites\/47\/2016\/08\/SexEd-300x300.jpg\")
<\/a>recently that we generally exaggerate the differences between males and females \u2014 and that all the parts and pleasures, so to speak, have correlates. (See photo.)<\/span><\/p>\n