{"id":16138,"date":"2016-09-25T22:02:00","date_gmt":"2016-09-25T22:02:00","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.catholicnewsagency.com\/news\/our-elders-are-lonely-do-we-care-45567\/"},"modified":"2017-07-08T12:02:00","modified_gmt":"2017-07-08T12:02:00","slug":"our-elders-are-lonely-do-we-care","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.patheos.com\/blogs\/catholicnews\/2016\/09\/our-elders-are-lonely-do-we-care\/","title":{"rendered":"Our elders are lonely \u2013 do we care?"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<\/head>

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Denver, Colo., Jul 8, 2017 \/ 06:02 am (CNA\/EWTN News<\/a>).- It was August in Rome, the dog days of summer, and most people had left the Eternal City for the beach or another summer holiday destination.<\/p>\n

It happens every year, essentially slowing the city to a crawl for a good two weeks or more. It can be a lonely time, especially for the elderly who no longer travel.<\/p>\n

That\u2019s when, last year on August 2, Italian police discovered Jole, 89, and Michele, 94, a couple living in the Appio neighborhood of Rome. Feeling particularly lonely, having had no visitors for some time, the couple\u2019s sobs became so loud that concerned neighbors called the police, who found no crime on their arrival, just two very lonely people.<\/p>\n

Besides offering medical assistance, the police decided to offer some comfort as well.<\/p>\n

\u201cThey improvised a cozy dinner. A plate of pasta with butter and cheese. Nothing special. But with a special ingredient: Inside, there is all their humanity,\u201d the Facebook post from the Italian police says.<\/p>\n

Sadly, the problem of loneliness among the elderly is not just confined to the summer holidays in Rome \u2013 it is a growing problem around the world.<\/p>\n

Last year, Katie Hafner for the New York Times <\/strong><\/a>reported that in Britain and the United States, roughly one in three people older than 65 live alone. In the United States, half of those older than 85 live alone. Studies in both countries show the prevalence of loneliness among people older than 60 ranging from 10 percent to 46 percent.<\/p>\n

While not a physical sickness in and of itself, chronic loneliness can also be detrimental to physical health. Several studies show that social isolation or feelings of loneliness can lead to an increased risk for heart disease, high blood pressure, stroke and even an earlier death.<\/p>\n

Sr. Constance Veit is communications director for the Little Sisters of the Poor, an order of Catholic sisters whose mission is \u201cto offer the neediest elderly of every race and religion a home where they will be welcomed as Christ, cared for as family and accompanied with dignity until God calls them to himself.\u201d They currently operate more than 25 homes for the elderly in the United States, as well as homes all over the world.<\/p>\n

Sr. Constance told CNA that the lonely elderly often pine for those who have preceded them in death, or perhaps family members who live far away or from whom they have been estranged.<\/p>\n

\u201c(W)e recognize that in a very real way you can never really replace those who are gone, so for most people there\u2019s always going to be an unfilled hole left, so to speak,\u201d she said. \u201cBut we do the best we can.\u201d<\/p>\n

Sr. Constance said that the Little Sisters and their staff are always on the lookout for signs of loneliness and isolation among their residents, and that they do the best to connect with them both through group activities and through one-on-one relationships.<\/p>\n

\u201cWe recognize that we\u2019re not just here to minister to people\u2019s physical or medical needs, but the whole person,\u201d she said.<\/p>\n

The New York Times article featured several different service and organizations in the UK that are working to combat loneliness among the elderly. Although similar programs exist in the United States, the research and awareness of the topic in the UK is still much further ahead than it is in the U.S.<\/p>\n

\u201cIn the U.S., there isn\u2019t much recognition in terms of public health initiatives or the average person recognizing that loneliness has to do with health,\u201d Julianne Holt-Lunstad, a professor of psychology at Brigham Young University, told the New York Times. Her own research has also linked loneliness to deteriorating health.<\/p>\n

John Lewis, a British retailer known for its heartwarming Christmas advertisements, partnered with Age UK, a charity for older people, to raise awareness of loneliness among the elderly, particularly during the holidays.<\/p>\n

In the video, a young girl discovers with dismay that there\u2019s an old man all alone on the moon for Christmas. Determined to show him he\u2019s not alone, she sends some airborne Christmas gifts his way.<\/p>\n

Statistics compiled in the UK have found that a million seniors go as long as a month without talking to anyone. The statistics in the United States are probably similarly shocking, Sr. Constance said.<\/p>\n

\u201cTo think of an older person going a month without speaking to friends or family, that\u2019s pretty bad,\u201d she said. \u00a0<\/p>\n

Pope Francis would agree<\/strong><\/a>. The pontiff once called neglect of the elderly a \u201cmortal sin\u201d after visiting an elderly woman in August who hadn\u2019t seen her family since Christmas.<\/p>\n

\u201cIt is a mortal sin to discard our elderly\u2026The elderly are not aliens. We are them \u2013 in a short or in a long while we are inevitably them, even though we choose not to think about it,\u201d he said during a general audience in March 2015.<\/p>\n

\u201cChildren who do not visit their elderly and ill parents have mortally sinned. Understand?\u201d he added.<\/p>\n

The Holy Father himself had a very close relationship with his grandmother when he was growing up, and has urged Catholics many times to not neglect the elderly or the sense of memory that they bring to their families and to society.<\/p>\n

Pope Francis has said that \u201cwe don\u2019t have a sense of memory, of appreciation of a family history and family tradition, the things that used to bind the generations together in families,\u201d Sr. Constance said.<\/p>\n

We\u2019ve also lost a sense \u201cof filial piety, that we do have a duty to one another in a family and especially to our elders,\u201d she added.<\/p>\n

Another part of the problem can be that older people who don\u2019t know how to use new technologies get left out of the loop, Sr. Constance said. A family that stays in touch through a texting group may be unintentionally leaving out older folks who don\u2019t text.<\/p>\n

But the blame lies not just with young people \u2013 it\u2019s a reciprocal problem, Sr. Constance noted.<\/p>\n

\u201cThe older generation, relatively speaking, of baby boomers also hasn\u2019t nurtured bonds,\u201d she said.<\/p>\n

\u201cThey\u2019ve been much more independent and have had more disposable income and have kind of done their own thing, but when something happens and they become frail, they haven\u2019t really set up the networks themselves or those strong bonds, so I think it\u2019s really reciprocal\u2026it\u2019s just kind of sad, it leaves us all a bit isolated.\u201d<\/p>\n

Social isolation can also become a self-perpetuating problem. Studies show that, counter-intuitively, social isolation often causes people to go into a kind of defense mode, where rather than reaching out for the support they need, they instead close themselves off further from society.<\/p>\n

The most important thing that people can do is to combat the problem is to look for meaningful ways to connect with the elderly in their lives, Sr. Constance said.<\/p>\n

\u201cEven if you feel like you don\u2019t have elderly people in your life, chances are you do have elderly people in your neighborhood or in your parish, maybe in your extended family of aunts and uncles,\u201d she said.<\/p>\n

\u201cReach out to them and relate to them and to create bonds with them intentionally, whether it\u2019s visiting them or offering them a ride to church or shopping, or include them in various things,\u201d Sr. Constance added.<\/p>\n

For those who live at a distance, teaching the elderly how to use Skype or some other technology that would help them say in touch is also important, she said.<\/p>\n

The Little Sisters of the Poor home in Washington, D.C., where Sr. Constance is based, is right across the street from The Catholic University of America, which sends student volunteers to the home four nights a week.<\/p>\n

While the young people are there to offer friendship to the elderly, it\u2019s a very reciprocal relationship, Sr. Constance said.<\/p>\n

\u201cSometimes I gaze out and realize what\u2019s really going on is that the students are telling their trials, tribulations, joys and anxieties to these little old ladies, and the students feel listened to,\u201d she said.<\/p>\n

\u201cSo it\u2019s very reciprocal, the residents are receiving something from the students, but the students \u2013 whether it\u2019s relationship woes or academic worries, the elderly are going to listen in a different way than your friends who have been hearing it all the time. The elderly can really lend a more sympathetic ear to the angst of younger people, and be a great support for them if they would take the time to realize that.\u201d<\/p>\n

The Little Sisters in D.C. are also launching an initiative called \u201cYouth & Aged for Life,\u201d a prayer movement for the Gospel of Life that brings together the young and the old.<\/p>\n

Strengthening bonds between generations \u2013 or what John Paul II once called the \u201ccovenant between generations\u201d \u2013 is one of the most pro-life things Catholics and Christians can do, Sr. Constance added.<\/p>\n

\u201cIt\u2019s only by reestablishing that or strengthening (those bonds) that we can fight the temptation for abortion, euthanasia and assisted suicide, by bonding together more strongly and cherishing one another\u2019s lives, both the very young and the very old.\u201d<\/p>\n

This article originally ran on Sept. 25, 2016.<\/em><\/p>\n

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