- Prioritize your wife’s needs ahead of your own
I decided a long time ago that I wanted to put my wife’s needs and preferences first, to show her how much she means to me.
For instance, if we need new phones, I would rather she get the newest version first, if we aren’t able to afford both at the same time.
If there are items we would like to purchase for our home, and we have to choose what to get first, I want her to be taken care of first. This is a simple way to show her how much she matters to me.
- Help her pursue her career and her passions
Be your wife’s biggest cheerleader and emotional support.
If your wife works, help her process her work but without getting too intense or emotional about her work frustrations. Guys have a tendency to get worked up, especially for issues that concern their wives. But often our wives simply want a listening ear to process with. Be that for her.
Help your wife pursue her passions and dreams in life. Encourage and help her to make time and space to do the things she dreams of.
- Discover her “love language” and do that
In his book, The 5 Love Languages, Gary Chapman shares the five areas that show love: quality time, words of affirmation, acts of service, gifts, and physical touch.
Most of us prefer one or two of these more than the others. That is considered our “love language.” How our spouse can best show us love and care is by doing more of those key things.
As an example, if you realize your wife’s love language is physical touch – even if you are not “that kind of guy,” (ie – touchy feely) become that kind of guy intentionally in order to fulfill her. Look for moments to hold her hand in public, or put your hand on her back when you are relaxing around the house.
#5 is something you should start TODAY and then never stop doing…