To My Friend Whose Marriage is “Pretty Much Dead”

He and his wife had started out with the best of intentions. They both were (and still are) great people. Neither of them walked down the aisle and said, “I do,” years ago thinking it would eventually look this way. It certainly didn’t happen all at once, and I’m sure both of them would have different versions of the story to explain how it got here. The overlap in both versions of the story would probably include words like: Miscommunication, Misunderstanding, hurt feelings and unmet expectations.

I’ve known them for years, but I still don’t feel qualified to do an “autopsy” on their marriage. I don’t have enough information. What I do know for sure is that they both genuinely believe they’ve done all they can to make it work and neither of them knows what to do next. The thought of starting where they are and somehow building a thriving, fulfilling marriage feels as impossible to them as telling two starving and exhausted people wearing no winter clothes to climb to the top of Mount Everest.

Can YOU relate to their situation? I believe every marriage goes through seasons of struggles and frustrations, but some couples find themselves in total despair where they feel that they’ve exhausted all resources and options and solutions still elude them.

WHAT DO YOU DO WHEN YOU’VE DONE ALL YOU KNOW HOW TO DO AND THE MARRIAGE STILL FEELS BROKEN?