{"id":1788,"date":"2014-12-12T10:56:40","date_gmt":"2014-12-12T15:56:40","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/admin.patheos.com\/blogs\/davewillis\/?p=1788"},"modified":"2015-12-11T16:39:16","modified_gmt":"2015-12-11T21:39:16","slug":"7-ways-a-husbands-needs-respect-from-his-wife","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.patheos.com\/blogs\/davewillis\/7-ways-a-husbands-needs-respect-from-his-wife\/","title":{"rendered":"7 ways a husband needs respect from his wife."},"content":{"rendered":"\n<\/head>

Before reading the article below, please\u00a0download our new Marriage App on iTunes<\/a>\u00a0<\/strong>for a library of marriage ebooks, daily marriage-building content plus some stellar communication tools to help you and your spouse stay connected. A Facebook login is required to access the app.<\/em><\/p>\n

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As I\u2019ve interacted with couples from all over the world and researched the keys to happiness and fulfillment in marriage, one surprising discovery is that most husbands are absolutely desperate for the respect of\u00a0their wives. For many men, the drive to be respected is even stronger than their drive for sex.<\/p>\n

(Women also desire and deserve respect. Take a minute to read my post on<\/em>\u00a07 ways a wife needs respect from her husband<\/a>)<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n

This isn\u2019t a new discovery. The Bible records a two thousand-year-old tidbit of marriage wisdom by stating, \u201cSo again I say, each man must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband.\u201d<\/em> (Ephesians 5:33). There\u2019s a great book by Dr. Emmerson Eggerichs called \u201cLove and Respect<\/em>\u201d which delves into the deeper meanings of love and respect in marriage.<\/p>\n

I believe most women genuinely want to show respect to their husbands, but they don\u2019t always know how to do it. What a wife may do to show respect and what a husband may need to feel respected are often two different things. To help bring more harmony to your marriage, I\u2019ve outlined below the main ways a husband feels respected from his wife.<\/p>\n

This is not a comprehensive list and all of these may not all apply to every marriage, but I\u2019m strongly convinced these seven principles hold true for the vast majority of men. I\u2019m so thankful to have a wife who shows me much more love and respect than I deserve! Thanks, Ashley.<\/p>\n

(In no particular order):<\/p>\n

A husband feels respected by his wife when\u2026<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n

1. She is content to live within the family\u2019s financial means.<\/strong><\/p>\n

A husband has a deep desire to be a provider. In our modern society, the man is not usually the sole breadwinner, but he still wants to feel that his work is meeting the needs and desires of his wife. When a wife will life within the family\u2019s financial means, she\u2019s communicating respect to her husband by validating his hard work and his need to be a provider. She\u2019s also removing financial stress from the marriage. (Husbands obviously need to live within the financial means of the family as well).<\/p>\n

2. She prioritizes what happens in the bedroom.<\/strong><\/p>\n

When a man feels starved sexually, he will often feel both the physical frustration of unfilled desire and the emotional frustration of feeling undesirable to his wife. When the wife will initiate intimacy and also be receptive to his advances, he will feel more respected and fulfilled and he\u2019ll also be more capable of fulfilling his wife\u2019s needs.<\/p>\n

For more on this, check out our\u00a0new video series on sex and intimacy in marriage.<\/a><\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n

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3. She builds him up with her words (both in public and in private).<\/strong><\/p>\n

A wife\u2019s words have the power to shape her husband. A wife shows respect to her husband both by how she speaks to him and by how she speaks about him. In both public and private, a wife\u2019s words can build up or tear down her husband. She\u2019s affirming, not sarcastic. She\u2019s warm, not cold. She\u2019s his biggest encourager, not his biggest critic.<\/p>\n

For more on this, check out this post on\u00a0\u201cHow do I respect my husband when he makes so many mistakes?\u201d<\/a><\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n

4. She laughs\u00a0with him (not at him).<\/strong><\/p>\n

When there isn\u2019t much laughter in the marriage, that\u2019s usually a warning sign of deeper issues. Find opportunities to laugh together. Your husband desperately wants you to be happy. Most husbands can\u2019t be happy unless they believe they\u2019re making their wives happy. Also, laugh at his jokes. This one might seem silly, but you\u2019d be amazed how important it is for most men to know his wife believes he has a great sense of humor.<\/p>\n

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5. She trusts his judgment.<\/strong><\/p>\n

I\u2019m certainly not saying a wife should blindly agree to everything that husband wants. A marriage requires a lot of conversation, mutual submission, and sometimes even\u00a0debate. What I am saying is that a man feels strongest when his wife affirms his strength. A man feels wisest when his wife affirms his wisdom. A man feels most respected when his wife respects his decisions.<\/p>\n

6. She doesn\u2019t mother him.<\/strong><\/p>\n

There\u2019s a motherly instinct in most women and that instinct can sometimes be misdirected towards mothering a husband. When a wife attempts to change, discipline or correct a husband from the posture of a mother instead of a partner, the husband will feel emasculated and it will often cause a cycle of frustration for both the husband and the wife.<\/p>\n

7. She has his back.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Above all, a husband needs to know his wife has his back. In all times, in all situations, let him know you love and respect him. Your love, your words, your actions and your respect have the power to bring out the best in him.<\/p>\n

For additional tools to help you build a rock-solid marriage, check out my brand new book\u00a0\u201cThe 7 Laws of Love: Essential Principles for Building Stronger Relationships.\u201d<\/a><\/em><\/strong>\u00a0You can get all 5 of my previous ebooks for FREE when you\u00a0preorder my new book.<\/a><\/strong><\/p>\n

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