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In my years working with married couples, I\u2019ve discovered that some common areas of miscommunication and unspoken assumptions<\/strong> are at the root of most marital frustration. My friend, Jason Isaacs, has written a blunt and brilliant post\u00a0on some of these common struggles in marriage and offered some very practical insights on how to overcome them (from a husband\u2019s perspective). Even if you\u2019re taken back by the frankness of his words, I can assure you that the heart behind those words is from a man who wants you to have the thriving, fulfilling marriage that God intended for you and your spouse. For more info on Jason, his marriage and his ministry, please check out his bio at the bottom of this post.<\/p>\n \u201c3 things every husband wishes he could say to his wife\u201d<\/em><\/strong> By:\u00a0Jason Isaacs<\/a><\/strong><\/p>\n <\/p>\n Here\u2019s an old joke about the difference between men and women\u2026<\/p>\n A woman visited a store in New York City that offers free husbands. At the entrance, there are instructions posted that say:\u00a0\u201cYou may visit this store ONLY ONCE! There are 6 floors to choose from. You may choose any item from a particular floor, or may choose to go up to the next floor, but you CANNOT go back down except to exit the building!\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n So the woman went shopping on the first floor and read a sign that said, \u201cFloor 1 \u2013 These men Have Jobs.\u201d<\/em> \u201cWow!<\/em>\u201d she thought, but still decided to keep going.<\/p>\n So she went to floor 2 and read a sign that said, \u201cFloor 2 \u2013 These men Have Jobs and Love Kids.\u201d<\/em> She thought, \u201cThese guys would make good husbands,\u201d<\/em> but now she was curious what other options were available, so she kept going.<\/p>\n On Floor 3 a sign said, \u201dThese men Have Jobs, Love Kids and are extremely Good Looking.\u201d<\/em> Each floor is only getting better,\u201d so she kept going.<\/p>\n The next sign said, \u201cFloor 4 \u2013 These men Have Jobs, Love Kids, are Drop-dead Good Looking and Help With Housework.\u201d \u201cOh, mercy me!\u201d<\/em> she exclaims. \u201cI can hardly stand it!\u201d<\/em> but she had to see what else was available, so she continued on.<\/p>\n On Floor 5 the sign read, \u201cThese men Have Jobs, Love Kids, are Drop-dead Gorgeous, help with Housework and Have a Strong Romantic Streak.\u201d<\/em> It was all she could do not to pick a husband from floor 5 but there was still one more floor to go so she continued on assuming it could only get better.<\/p>\n When she arrived on Floor 6, the sign read, \u201cYou are visitor 71,456,012 to this floor. There are no men on this floor. This floor exists solely as proof that you are impossible to please. Thank you for shopping at the Husband Store.\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n To avoid gender bias charges, the store\u2019s owner opened a Wife Store just across the street. When a man walks in the door a sign reads, \u201cFloor 1 \u2013 has wives that love sex.\u201d<\/em> To this day floors 2-6 have never been visited.<\/p>\n Ladies, I know we men are not perfect,<\/strong> and I\u2019m not claiming your fights or struggles are all your fault, as a matter of fact, I have no problem placing most of the blame for our relationship decencies at our feet, but after 12 years of counseling and conversations with couples trying to be better, including my own marriage, I\u2019ve noticed a few consistent frustrations husbands have with their wife.<\/p>\n Here are 3 things<\/strong> husbands wish they could say to their wives but don\u2019t know how to tell you:.<\/em><\/p>\n 1. The more you complain the less I want to communicate.<\/strong> \u201cA quarrelsome wife is as annoying as constant dripping on a rainy day. Stopping her complaints is like trying to stop the wind or trying to hold something with greased hands.\u201d<\/em>\u00a0Proverbs 27:15-16<\/strong> 2. I want you to want to have sex with me not put up with sex with me.<\/strong> It drives us crazy when you negotiate with sex<\/strong>, like somehow because I vacuumed or did the dishes now I\u2019m worthy to make love to you. If you rarely ever want to have sex with your husband, eventually he will find someone who will. Don\u2019t misunderstand; I\u2019m not saying you are to blame for the adultery, a vow is a vow regardless of the adversity, but in my experience, a man who has to fight for sex with his spouse over an extended period will develop a porn addiction or a mistress. Sex is that big of a deal to us.<\/p>\n 3. Everyone else celebrates me, but you tear me down.<\/strong> You don\u2019t realize how much power you have. Your words set the tone for your home. The more you tell him how much you believe in him, the less he will want to let you down.<\/strong><\/p>\n If he ever cheats on you, it won\u2019t be because she\u2019s skinnier, prettier, or her boobs are bigger. It will be because when he is with her, she makes him feel successful and important, and you make him feel normal. Jason Isaacs<\/a>\u00a0is the Senior Pastor of Hope City Church<\/a>\u00a0in Louisville KY. He is the author of the book I Want What God Wants<\/a>,<\/em><\/strong> and contributes as a writer for TheWayWeDo.Life<\/a>, and ExcellentPastor.com<\/a>.\u00a0For more information visit\u00a0his Facebook page by clicking here.<\/a><\/p>\n IF THIS POST HELPED YOU, PLEASE SHARE IT USING THE LINKS BELOW SO WE CAN HELP OTHERS TOO!<\/p>\n<\/body><\/html>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" In my years working with married couples, I\u2019ve discovered that some common areas of miscommunication and unspoken assumptions are at the root of most marital frustration. 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\nWhat you do is hard, I get it. No one is saying (or should be saying) it\u2019s easy, but without realizing, a lot of times you spend more time complaining about your home, job, husband, marriage, money, and friends than you do enjoying them. If you keep nagging, complaining, and annoying him, he will just shut down. You\u2019re too much of a headache to deal with.<\/p>\n
\nA few years ago Andrea and I were living in our first home, and calling it a starter home would be an insult to starter homes. We had lived there for a few years, and Andrea was getting the itch to move into a bigger house; I know because she wouldn\u2019t stop reminding me, and reminding me, and reminding me. I understood her frustration and agreed we needed more space but also it was frustrating to work hard and provide for my family and feel like my wife wasn\u2019t happy with what I had worked so hard to provide. After a while, every time she said, \u201cI can\u2019t wait until we move into a bigger house,\u201d<\/em> all I could hear was,<\/strong> \u201cWhy did I have to marry a man who couldn\u2019t buy me a bigger house.\u201d<\/em> That\u2019s not what she was saying, but that\u2019s what I was hearing.<\/strong><\/p>\n
\nI\u2019m not asking for a playboy bunny or a porn star, I recognize I don\u2019t look like the man you married either, but every time you \u201cput up\u201d with sex, or put on the granny panties, it makes us feel like less of a man. Ever since the cave man, men have loved to beat their chest and know that we conquered something. When you lay there like a board the message you\u2019re sending is<\/strong>, \u201cI don\u2019t want to do this because you don\u2019t satisfy me, but I have to, so go ahead and get it over with.\u201d<\/em> Don\u2019t get me wrong, any sex is good sex for a man, but if a guy is being honest with you half the thrill of sex is feeling like you pleased your woman.<\/p>\n
\nLet me tell you a secret a man won\u2019t tell you. We\u2019re fragile.<\/strong> Every time you talk down to your husband you are killing a little piece of his spirit (confidence). At work we\u2019re successful and accomplished. We set sales records and impress our boss. New hires look up to us and ask our advice, but when we come home to you we\u2019re \u201can idiot who can\u2019t do anything right.\u201d You knew you should have left us when you had the chance. We know we make mistakes, lots of them, but when you consistently talk to us in a condescending tone like you are talking to our kids we get so angry. Maybe the reason your husband acts like a child is because you talk to him like he is one.
\n\u201cA wise woman builds her home, but a foolish woman tears it down with her own hands.\u201d<\/em>\u00a0Proverbs 14:1<\/strong><\/p>\n
\n\u201cIt is better to dwell in the wilderness, than with a contentious and an angry woman.<\/em>\u201d\u00a0Proverbs 24:19<\/strong>
\nI know after reading each of these statements you have a million defenses for why you act the way you do and why he deserved it. I\u2019m not saying you\u2019re wrong, but the choice to complain less, have more sex, and celebrate your husband are within your control. Regardless of what he does or doesn\u2019t do you can choose to be better. Let me make you a 100% guarantee; if you start complaining less, enjoying sex more, and bragging on your man (especially in front of his friends) he will become the man you want him to be.<\/strong> Just ask my wife, she tricked me into changing and I never saw it coming.<\/p>\n