{"id":4982,"date":"2013-09-30T15:19:36","date_gmt":"2013-09-30T19:19:36","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/sixseeds.patheos.com\/davewillis\/?p=663"},"modified":"2017-11-08T10:50:52","modified_gmt":"2017-11-08T15:50:52","slug":"5-rules-for-every-disagreement-in-your-marriage-2","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.patheos.com\/blogs\/davewillis\/5-rules-for-every-disagreement-in-your-marriage-2\/","title":{"rendered":"5 rules for every disagreement in your marriage that will ever come up"},"content":{"rendered":"<!DOCTYPE html PUBLIC \"-\/\/W3C\/\/DTD HTML 4.0 Transitional\/\/EN\" \"http:\/\/www.w3.org\/TR\/REC-html40\/loose.dtd\">\n<html><head><meta http-equiv=\"content-type\" content=\"text\/html; charset=utf-8\"><meta http-equiv=\"content-type\" content=\"text\/html; charset=utf-8\"><\/head><body><p><div class=\"patheos-gallery\"><div class=\"gallery-blurb\"><!DOCTYPE html PUBLIC \"-\/\/W3C\/\/DTD HTML 4.0 Transitional\/\/EN\" \"http:\/\/www.w3.org\/TR\/REC-html40\/loose.dtd\">\n<html><head><meta http-equiv=\"content-type\" content=\"text\/html; charset=utf-8\"><meta http-equiv=\"content-type\" content=\"text\/html; charset=utf-8\"><\/head><body><div class=\"getty embed image\" style=\"background-color: #fff; display: inline-block; font-family: 'Helvetica Neue',Helvetica,Arial,sans-serif; color: #a7a7a7; font-size: 11px; width: 100%; max-width: 332px;\">\n<div style=\"padding: 0; margin: 0; text-align: left;\"><a style=\"color: #a7a7a7; text-decoration: none; font-weight: normal !important; border: none; display: inline-block;\" href=\"http:\/\/www.gettyimages.com\/detail\/469036359\" target=\"_blank\" class=\" decorated-link\" rel=\"nofollow\">Embed from Getty Images<\/a><\/div>\n<div style=\"overflow: hidden; position: relative; height: 0; padding: 155.421687% 0 0 0; width: 100%;\"><iframe loading=\"lazy\" style=\"display: inline-block; position: absolute; top: 0; left: 0; width: 100%; height: 100%; margin: 0;\" src=\"\/\/embed.gettyimages.com\/embed\/469036359?et=diGnvmMqQCxBvXlhhyjVaA&amp;viewMoreLink=off&amp;sig=kRgEkNUtYJYhrnzFtPC_FOIpzN8N9y7x_uyKTQHQE38=\" width=\"332\" height=\"516\" frameborder=\"0\" scrolling=\"no\"><\/iframe><\/div>\n<p style=\"margin: 0;\">\n<\/p><\/div>\n<p>Have you ever had an argument with your spouse and then both of you walked away feeling angry, misunderstood and confused? Even the healthiest marriages face disagreements, but if we\u2019re not careful, those differences of opinion can escalate into something destructive.<\/p>\n<p>A secret of healthy and happy couples seems to be found in working through disagreements in a productive way.\u00a0I\u2019m convinced that if you will follow a few simple guidelines, the tone of your arguments and consequently the tone of your entire marriage can be transformed in a healthy way. Each couple is different, but I believe these basic principles will hold true in the vast majority of marriages. Start applying these right away and your relationship will experience some instant improvements.<\/p>\n<p><strong>1. Realize that you\u2019ll both win or you\u2019ll both lose.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>As husband and wife, you\u2019re partners in everything, so nobody \u201cwins\u201d an argument. Realize that you\u2019ll either win together or lose together, so work together to find a solution. 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