{"id":2680,"date":"2016-06-22T05:32:03","date_gmt":"2016-06-22T11:32:03","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/admin.patheos.com\/blogs\/davidrupert\/?p=2680"},"modified":"2016-06-21T08:34:38","modified_gmt":"2016-06-21T14:34:38","slug":"flunking-first-grade-when-suffering-holds-us-back","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.patheos.com\/blogs\/davidrupert\/flunking-first-grade-when-suffering-holds-us-back\/","title":{"rendered":"Flunking First Grade: When suffering holds us back"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<\/head>

When you are six, there\u2019s just a few things that could be called \u201cdevastating.\u201d Not advancing to Second Grade would be one of them.<\/p>\n

I remember when my mother threatened to hold me back a year. I was the youngest in my \u00a0class, an\u00a0anomaly\u00a0of the school calendar. I wasn\u2019t adapting well and she thought I might do better by starting over again.<\/p>\n

Somehow, I talked \u2013 or cried \u2013 my way through the threat. But the truth is that I probably wasn\u2019t ready.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s that way for me now. The simple truths in life aren\u2019t so easy for me to grasp. I still ask questions like \u201cwhy\u201d and \u201chow\u201d and \u201cwhen\u201d just like a first-grader.\u00a0 I should have learned these life lessons a long time ago.<\/p>\n

When it comes to trials, I\u2019m biting my quivering lip, still using expressions like, \u201cIt\u2019s not fair.\u201d Talk like that should get me sent to the corner.<\/p>\n

It should be easy by now<\/h2>\n

I heard this verse recently in church and it simply floored me.<\/p>\n

\u201cIn this world, you will have trouble.<\/em>\u201d Yup!
\n\u201cBut be of good cheer.<\/em>\u201d Huh?
\n\u201cFor I have overcome the world.<\/em>\u201d Oh. I forgot.<\/p>\n

How come verses like this still pierce my soul? For some reason, I thought by now I would get it. After so many years, I thought I would be able to have the faith to walk without doubt. I thought I would be able to trust that God has a plan. I thought I would be able to discern the reason for the trials.<\/p>\n

Maybe I should be held back!<\/p>\n

Translating the simple truth of a God who cares, who is in control and who is intimately aware of my everyday life seems to be a lifelong struggle.<\/p>\n

Paul says<\/a>, \u201c<\/strong>Not only that, but we\u00a0rejoice in our sufferings, knowing that suffering\u00a0produces endurance,\u00a0\u00a0and endurance produces character, and character produces hope.\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n

Even with a box of\u00a0old, used\u00a0crayons, there\u2019s still color and life and the opportunity for something different. Even in brokenness, there is hope for a new creation.<\/p>\n

\"Broken<\/a><\/p>\n

Photo by Shawn Ford<\/a>, via Flikr Creative Commons<\/a>\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0<\/em><\/h6>\n

As I get older, here\u2019s\u00a0 a simple truth I really want to nail down:\u00a0Suffering isn\u2019t a tragedy, rather it\u2019s a promotion.\u00a0<\/em><\/p>\n

When life sucks \u2013\u00a0 When things don\u2019t go my way \u2013 When the disease creeps into my body, or family members throw their darts of self-righteousness or when friends disappear, I need to see this present suffering as a chance to elevate my perspective.<\/p>\n

Suffering is a chance to see things from another view, to elevate above the everyday world and to find a higher meaning, a purpose to all of this.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Not everyone gets that clarity. Most stomp through life, twisting through the well-worn paths and never even looking ahead, let alone above.<\/p>\n

Not everyone can see where the parade leads. Instead they march on, following the route laid out by someone else. All they can see is the poor chump in front of them. The crowds are cheering, but the reason is a mystery. Winding through the streets, the deepest thing they\u2019ll ever realize is when it it\u2019s over.<\/p>\n

Pastor Eric Parks preached<\/a> this last week and he said this. \u201cIn the end, joy will win. And if joy hasn\u2019t yet won, it isn\u2019t yet the end. \u201c<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t hold me back!<\/h2>\n

I have a brother-in-law who just got The Diagnosis. Out of the blue, without warning. He\u2019s shocked. We are all shocked. His family is rallying. His friends are supportive. His church is praying.<\/p>\n

He\u2019s a strong man with a great perspective on this life and the next. But his present suffering is causing him to squint into the horizon and look for joy.<\/p>\n

He gets it. But so many others don\u2019t.<\/p>\n

Suffering helps us have a razor-sharp clarity, a 20-20 vision that puts\u00a0us on the observation deck instead of the gutter.<\/p>\n

I think I\u2019m ready for a promotion. Second grade, here I come!<\/p>\n

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