For myself, I have seen how my own niggling, personal prejudgments often have robbed me of pleasure and peace of mind. There have been times when I have tried to cure these prejudices, and I recall one time in particular when a conscious effort at healing resulted in a crucial breakthrough in my acting career.<\/p>\n
It happened a long time ago, in the late \u201940s, after a good many bleak years trying to crack Broadway. Those had been years of constant work, of having a job as a secretary in the shipping department of a railroad company by day; typing manuscripts late at night in exchange for drama lessons; begging time off for summer stock; making precious little progress.<\/p>\n
Then one day the chance came to read for one of the Equity Library Theatre productions \u2014 shows that our actors union puts on to give us a chance to work and to be seen. The play was \u201cThe Corn Is Green,\u201d and there were two roles in it I felt confident I could handle.<\/p>\n
One of them was so miniscule, however, that though I knew it meant a job, there was some doubt as to whether it would be a good showcase. Naturally the tiny part was the one I was offered.<\/p>\n
I thought about it a while. \u201cI\u2019ll do it,\u201d I said finally, irritated that they hadn\u2019t given me the larger part.<\/p>\n
Ten days before the opening, the actress rehearsing Mrs. Watty fell on some ice and broke her leg. I assumed that I would inherit her role and I wasn\u2019t surprised when Ted Post, the director, came to talk to me. He asked me if I would fill in until he could get somebody else.<\/p>\n
\u201cSomebody else! But what about me?\u201d I protested. \u201cI can play her.\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cNo,\u201d he said, \u201cyou\u2019re too young.\u201d<\/p>\n
I didn\u2019t believe him. He just was not being fair. He had it in for me.<\/p>\n
I got angry. I got so mad that I couldn\u2019t even sit at the same dinner table with my parents that evening. I had to get up and go to my room and try to collect myself. I had to do something about this injustice or I would burst.<\/p>\n
In those days \u2014 as well as today \u2014 I had my own way of finding help when needed. I took out my Bible. After all, I had been going to Sunday school classes in our church since the age of two. And I also took out my concordance, that remarkable compilation of all the key words in the Bible and where they appear.<\/p>\n
I flipped through the pages of the concordance to the \u201cJs,\u201d mumbling theatrically all the while, \u201cJustice is what I need, justice\u2026\u201d But before I could find \u201cjustice\u201d my eyes fell on \u201cjudge.\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cFor the Lord is our j. Isa. 33:22.\u201d<\/p>\n
I picked up the Bible and sped to Isaiah. I had explored Scripture in this fashion many times before, sometimes losing myself for hours in random adventure. Now, Chapter 33 \u2014 there it was: \u201cFor the Lord is our judge, the Lord is our lawgiver, the Lord is our king; he will save us.\u201d<\/p>\n
What was this I was asking about justice? Had I jumped to some emotional conclusion about Ted? Should I pray about this and try leaving justice to the Lord?<\/p>\n
I prayed; I relinquished the matter to the Highest Power. My anger disappeared. I was back in the dining room for dessert.<\/p>\n
The next day at rehearsal I was no longer driven by an ambition to play Mrs. Watty. I read the part as well as I could and enjoyed doing it, and when Ted found somebody he thought was the right age, I retired with genuine grace.<\/p>\n
But that wasn\u2019t the end of the story. Three nights later the producer called me at home and said that the new Mrs. Watty hadn\u2019t worked out. If Ted should ask me, would I be willing to take over? Very quietly I told her I\u2019d be delighted, and the next day Ted said, \u201cYou\u2019re too young for it, Jean, but the part\u2019s yours.\u201d<\/p>\n
It\u2019s still not the end of the story. Just as all show business sagas ought to unfold, an important agent saw me at the opening. She wasn\u2019t fooled by my make-up. She saw me as a young woman, just right, she decided, for the role of the niece in a touring company of \u201cHarvey.\u201d<\/p>\n
Out of that came my first good job in the theater. I was on my way.<\/p>\n
Today, when I get emotional about something I think somebody has done to me, I try to think back to that experience before I start hurling a few hasty, bigoted thunderbolts.<\/p>\n
I recall that I never succeeded in changing the director\u2019s opinion of me; nor did I change my own opinion. I had simply left the judging to the Lawgiver, and He decided for both of us.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n
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