{"id":4917,"date":"2011-07-05T07:26:52","date_gmt":"2011-07-05T11:26:52","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.patheos.com\/community\/deaconsbench\/?p=4917"},"modified":"2016-09-30T17:40:35","modified_gmt":"2016-09-30T21:40:35","slug":"tangled-how-sperm-donors-and-surrogates-are-changing-the-family-tree","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.patheos.com\/blogs\/deaconsbench\/2011\/07\/tangled-how-sperm-donors-and-surrogates-are-changing-the-family-tree\/","title":{"rendered":"Tangled: how sperm donors and surrogates are changing the family tree"},"content":{"rendered":"<!DOCTYPE html PUBLIC \"-\/\/W3C\/\/DTD HTML 4.0 Transitional\/\/EN\" \"http:\/\/www.w3.org\/TR\/REC-html40\/loose.dtd\">\n<html><head><meta http-equiv=\"content-type\" content=\"text\/html; charset=utf-8\"><meta http-equiv=\"content-type\" content=\"text\/html; charset=utf-8\"><\/head><body><p>And the branches are harder to discern. Below, cousins who are also, biologically, half-siblings.<\/p>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/wp.patheos.com\/community\/sites\/56\/2011\/07\/jp-TREE-articleLarge.jpg\" class=\" decorated-link\" target=\"_blank\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-medium wp-image-4918\" src=\"https:\/\/wp.patheos.com\/community\/sites\/56\/2011\/07\/jp-TREE-articleLarge-300x157.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"300\" height=\"157\"><\/a><\/p>\n<p>The New York Times looks at <strong><a href=\"http:\/\/www.nytimes.com\/2011\/07\/05\/us\/05tree.html?_r=1&amp;hp\" class=\" decorated-link\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"nofollow\">some strange and disturbing trends:<\/a> <\/strong> <strong><a href=\"http:\/\/www.nytimes.com\/2011\/07\/05\/us\/05tree.html?_r=1&amp;hp=&amp;pagewanted=print\" class=\" decorated-link\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"nofollow\"><\/a><\/strong><\/p>\n<blockquote><p>Laura Ashmore and Jennifer Williams are sisters. After that, their relationship becomes more complex.<\/p>\n<p>When Ms. Ashmore and her husband, Lee, learned a few years ago that they  could not conceive a child, Ms. Williams stepped in and offered to  become pregnant with a donor\u2019s sperm on behalf of the couple, and give  birth to the child. The baby, Mallory, was born in September 2007 and  adopted by Ms. Ashmore and her husband.<\/p>\n<p>Then the sisters began to ponder: where would the little girl sit on the family tree?<\/p>\n<p>\u201cFor medical purposes I am her mother,\u201d Ms. Williams said. \u201cBut I am also her aunt.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>Many families are grappling with similar questions as a family tree  today is beginning to look more like a tangled forest. Genealogists have  long defined familial relations along bloodlines or marriage. But as  the composition of families changes, so too has the notion of who gets a  branch on the family tree.<\/p>\n<p>Some families now organize their family tree into two separate  histories: genetic and emotional. Some schools, where charting family  history has traditionally been a classroom project, are now skipping the  exercise altogether.<\/p>\n<p>Adriana Murphy, a seventh-grade social studies teacher at the Green  Acres School in Rockville, Md., said she asked students to write a story  about an aspect of their family history instead. At Riverdale Country  School in the Bronx, KC Cohen, a counselor, said the family tree had  been mostly relegated to foreign language class, where students can  practice saying \u201cbrother\u201d or \u201csister\u201d in French and Spanish.<\/p>\n<p>\u201cYou have to be ready to have that conversation about surrogates, sperm  donors and same-sex parents if you are going to teach the family tree in  the classroom,\u201d Ms. Cohen said.<\/p>\n<p>For the last six years, according to United States census data, there  have been more unmarried households than married ones. And more same-sex  couples are having children using surrogates or sperm donors or by  adoption. The California Cryobank, one of the nation\u2019s largest sperm  banks, said that about one-third of its clients in 2009 were lesbian  couples, compared with 7 percent a decade earlier. Even birth  certificate reporting is catching up. New questions are being phased in  nationally on the standard birth certificate questionnaire about  whether, and what type of, reproductive technology was used, according  to the National Center for Health Statistics, part of the Centers for  Disease Control and Prevention.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p><strong><a href=\"http:\/\/www.nytimes.com\/2011\/07\/05\/us\/05tree.html?_r=1&amp;hp=&amp;pagewanted=print\" class=\" decorated-link\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"nofollow\">Read the rest. <\/a><\/strong><\/p>\n<\/body><\/html>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>And the branches are harder to discern. Below, cousins who are also, biologically, half-siblings. The New York Times looks at some strange and disturbing trends: Laura Ashmore and Jennifer Williams are sisters. After that, their relationship becomes more complex. 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