{"id":98334,"date":"2016-04-09T15:20:00","date_gmt":"2016-04-09T19:20:00","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/aleteia.org\/?post_type=post&amp;p=98334"},"modified":"2016-04-09T15:20:00","modified_gmt":"2016-04-09T19:20:00","slug":"love-does-not-have-to-be-perfect-homily-for-april-10-2016-3rd-sunday-of-easter","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.patheos.com\/blogs\/deaconsbench\/2016\/04\/love-does-not-have-to-be-perfect-homily-for-april-10-2016-3rd-sunday-of-easter\/","title":{"rendered":"&#8220;Love Does Not Have to be Perfect&#8221;: Homily for April 10, 2016: 3rd Sunday of Easter"},"content":{"rendered":"<!DOCTYPE html PUBLIC \"-\/\/W3C\/\/DTD HTML 4.0 Transitional\/\/EN\" \"http:\/\/www.w3.org\/TR\/REC-html40\/loose.dtd\">\n<html><head><meta http-equiv=\"content-type\" content=\"text\/html; charset=utf-8\"><meta http-equiv=\"content-type\" content=\"text\/html; charset=utf-8\"><\/head><body><p><strong>If you\u2019re looking for a loaded question, you\u2019ll find it right in the middle of this Sunday\u2019s gospel:<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>\u201cDo you love me?\u201d<\/p>\n<p>Here, it is more than a yes or no question. It is, in fact, a challenge. Days after Christ\u2019s passion, death and resurrection, the apostle who denied Jesus three times was asked three times a question that must have caused him more than a little discomfort.<\/p>\n<p><strong>\u201cDo you love me?\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>It\u2019s safe to say, Jesus already knew the answer. He knew Peter\u2019s strengths and weaknesses.<\/p>\n<p>He knew his blunders and mistakes and his sins. But that morning on the Sea of Galilee, he gazed with wisdom and mercy at the flawed figure who would continue the work he began and asked him if he loved him.<\/p>\n<p>When Peter said he did, Jesus then gave him this deceptively simple task: \u201cFeed my sheep.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>If Peter had any questions, Christ\u2019s two-word reply would have to suffice:<\/p>\n<p><strong>\u201cFollow me.\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Those words are the same ones Jesus said on that seashore three years earlier, when he first chose his apostles. And now we hear them again\u2014a theme that almost acts as a coda to the story of Christ\u2019s life, death and resurrection. It all comes down to this:\u00a0<em>Follow me.<\/em><\/p>\n<p>In the lectionary cycle, this reading is the last of the post-resurrection accounts we will hear in the Sunday gospels this Easter season\u2014and those two words from Jesus are addressed not just to Simon Peter, but to us all.<\/p>\n<p>And at this particular moment, they give us a lot to ponder.<\/p>\n<p>As most of you know, Pope Francis has just published an Apostolic Exhortation, a response to the Synod on the Family. As papal documents go, an Exhortation carries less weight than an encyclical, and it is essentially a letter with the pope\u2019s reflections on what transpired at the Synod. This Exhortation is long, at over 260 pages, with footnotes. I\u2019m working my way through it now, and still have a long way to go. But its title says a lot about what is on the pope\u2019s mind. It\u2019s called \u201c<em>Amoris Laetitia,\u201d<\/em> which means \u201cThe Joy of Love.\u201d Love in marriage, love in the family\u2026<\/p>\n<p>\u2026I want to mention one section of this exhortation that speaks eloquently about that very question Jesus asked Peter. Pope Francis offers a thoughtful dissection of Paul\u2019s famous letter to the Corinthians, and the chapter on love. This section\u00a0should be required reading for anyone who is getting married, anyone who is married, anyone who is struggling with a difficult marriage.<\/p>\n<p>But these words here speak to us all, married and unmarried. They could be addressed to Peter. Or to you and me.<\/p>\n<p><em>Read the full homily <strong><a href=\"http:\/\/aleteia.org\/2016\/04\/09\/love-does-not-have-to-be-perfect\/\" class=\" decorated-link\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"nofollow\">here.\u00a0<\/a><\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<\/body><\/html>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>If you\u2019re looking for a loaded question, you\u2019ll find it right in the middle of this Sunday\u2019s gospel: \u201cDo you love me?\u201d Here, it is more than a yes or no question. It is, in fact, a challenge. 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