Husband-Speak: How to Transform His World With Your Words

Transforming Truth #5: He truly doesn’t “know” how much you appreciate him

How sad is the marriage where the husband says to the wife, “I told you on our wedding day that I love you. If that ever changes, I’ll let you know.” Most of us would be horrified if we heard of a woman being told that. We know how much secret doubt there is inside us as women (Does he really love me?) So we know how important it is to hear “I love you” from our husbands.

It is the exact same thing for men. He wonders Does she really appreciate me? Am I any good for her? That is why it is equally horrifying when a man doesn’t hear affirmation from his wife.

Don’t assume that your man knows you appreciate and respect him. If you haven’t told him, then he may not know. Or worse, he may believe that you don’t. Never assume. Tell him often.

Tweet this: “Don’t assume that your man knows you appreciate and respect him. If you haven’t told him, then he may not know.“

The good news is that rain does patter, birds do sing, children do laugh, and you can begin to transform your husband’s world by simply speaking affirmation and kindness to him.

Want to develop a habit of that? Try the 30-Day Kindness Challenge and you’ll see everything changing very quickly.

Helping people thrive in life and relationships is Shaunti Feldhahn’s driving passion, supported by her research projects and writing. After starting out with a Harvard graduate degree and experience on Wall Street, her life took an unexpected shift into relationship research. She now is a popular speaker around the world and the author of best-selling books about men, women, and relationships. (Including For Women Only, For Men Only, and the groundbreaking The Good News About Marriage).

Her newest book, The Kindness Challenge, demonstrates that kindness is the answer to almost every life problem, and is sparking a much-needed movement of kindness across the country. Visit www.shaunti.com for more.