{"id":2105,"date":"2011-11-19T16:39:35","date_gmt":"2011-11-19T22:39:35","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.patheos.com\/blogs\/diaryofawimpycatholic\/?p=2105"},"modified":"2015-03-13T15:03:46","modified_gmt":"2015-03-13T21:03:46","slug":"tomorrows-sex-ed-better-than-porn","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.patheos.com\/blogs\/diaryofawimpycatholic\/2011\/11\/tomorrows-sex-ed-better-than-porn\/","title":{"rendered":"Tomorrow’s Sex Ed: Better than Porn?"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<\/head>

My father learned about sex \u2014 the theory, that is, not the practice \u2014 from reading Irv Shulman\u2019s Amboy Dukes.<\/em><\/strong><\/a> Published in 1947, two years before the old man was bar mitzvah, it billed itself as \u201cThe Toughest Novel Ever Written About Juvenile Delinquent Gangs.\u201d Several years later, my mother learned the facts of life through more official channels \u2014 namely, the nuns of St. Anthony\u2019s grammar school and their lectures on the martyrdom of Maria Goretti. The contrast to the Amboy Dukes<\/em> is more apparent than real: both involved adolescent sociopaths and jury-rigged weapons. Could it have been a shared ghoulishness, acquired early on, that brought my folks together? If so, I must have picked it up, or else I wouldn\u2019t find myself speculating on what props were used in my conception. <\/p>\n

It\u2019ll be interesting to see whether sex ed pioneer Al Vernacchio\u2019s students will have any hangups left to pass on to their kids. An article in this week\u2019s New York Times<\/em><\/strong><\/a> describes how Vernacchio, who teaches at Friends\u2019 Central School in Philadelphia, wins students\u2019 confidence with an \u201cutter lack of self-consciousness about sexual matters,\u201d fielding questions about everything from orgasms to orgies. Rather than skirt the subject of pleasure, he considers it his mission to teach sex \u201cin all its glory and complications.\u201d Vernacchio denies contributing to the delinquency of minors: <\/p>\n

\u201cAs much as I say, \u2018This is how orgasms work, and they\u2019re really cool,\u2019 I say there\u2019s a lot of work to being in a relationship and having sex. I don\u2019t think I have the power to make sex sound so enticing that kids are going to break through their self-esteem issues or body stuff or parental pressures or whatever to just go do it.\u201d And anyway, Vernacchio went on, \u201cI don\u2019t necessarily see the decision to become sexually active when you\u2019re 17 as an unhealthy one.\u201d His goal is for young people to know their own minds, be clear about what they do and don\u2019t want and use their self-knowledge to make choices.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n

Most parents can rest assured that Vernacchio won\u2019t be lecturing their kids anytime soon. Friends\u2019 Central is a private school, run by those draft-dodging pantywaists, the Quakers. But some sex educators are lobbying to reinvent public-school curricula in such a way as will give prominence to the question of pleasure. Last November, Paul Johannides, author of The Guide to Getting it On<\/em>, advised guests at a sex educators\u2019 conference: \u201cPorn is the model for today\u2019s middle-school and high-school students\u2026And none of us is offering an alternative that\u2019s even remotely appealing.\u201d <\/p>\n

The idea of middle-aged teachers trying to compete with porn stars on their own turf sounds, well\u2026jarring, <\/em>at best. Their goal is relevance. In Johannides\u2019 words: \u201cWe\u2019re worrying about which bathrooms transgender students should use while teens are worrying whether they should shave all the way or leave a landing strip\u2026They\u2019re worrying if someone special will find them sexually attractive, whether they will be able to do it as well as porn, whether others have the same kind of sexual feelings they do.\u201d <\/p>\n

As goals go, \u201crelevance\u201d is pretty hard to define objectively, and for that reason pretty easy to overlook if missed \u2014 more so, anyway, than preventing teen pregnancy and STDs. Nobody quoted in the Times<\/em> article predicts with any confidence that if kids pay more attention in class because the teacher responds frankly and non-judgmentally to their questions about X,<\/em> then they\u2019ll take him more seriously when he lectures them on the dangers of Y.<\/em> The worst-case scenario that justifies the pleasure-based curricula, that porn will teach kids bad lovemaking habits that they\u2019ll need a lifetime to unlearn, sounds a bit by the way, not to mention farfetched. Judging by the titles in Barnes & Noble alone, continuing adult sex ed is a growing industry. Why strangle it, as it were, in its crib? <\/p>\n

In horse races with clearly defined markers, abstinence-only programs have shown some evidence of effectiveness. According to a National Institute of Mental Health<\/strong><\/a> study published last year, a sample of 662 African-American middle-schoolers, aged 10 to 15, was divided into four groups. Members of the group that learned sex ed through a two-year program stressing abstinence reported having had sex at significantly lower rates than any of the others. Researchers obtained their data through students\u2019 self-reporting, so the possibility remains that abstinence-only programs simply teach kids to be sneaks. Still, if Florence King was right when she wrote that hypocrisy is a synonym for civilization, that might not be a bad start. <\/p>\n<\/body><\/html>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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