{"id":13090,"date":"2019-02-20T05:04:26","date_gmt":"2019-02-20T09:04:26","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/admin.patheos.com\/blogs\/euangelion\/?p=13090"},"modified":"2019-02-18T21:20:46","modified_gmt":"2019-02-19T01:20:46","slug":"the-unspoken-side-of-women-and-domestic-violence","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.patheos.com\/blogs\/euangelion\/2019\/02\/the-unspoken-side-of-women-and-domestic-violence\/","title":{"rendered":"The Unspoken Side of Women and Domestic Violence"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<\/head>

Over at The Spectator<\/a>, I have a piece about the untold side of women and domestic violence.<\/p>\n

Domestic and Family Violence (DFM) is a big issue in Australia and pretty much everywhere.<\/p>\n

It is a scourge, a cancer, it has no place in society, let alone in the church, it is only and always evil.<\/p>\n

Women bear the brunt of the majority of the abuse and men are overwhelmingly the perpetrators of DFV.<\/p>\n

However, when I keep hearing the mantra about men as abusers and women as victims, I have to tell you that I feel a certain degree of dissonance. My\u00a0biography doesn\u2019t fit that narrative. While my mother could be a caring and loving person, she was also, spasmodically, cruel and vicious, and subjected me to physical and emotional abuse as well as homelessness.<\/p>\n

25% of DFV is perpetrated by women, often at children, yet it attracts very little attention in the media or in public campaigns.<\/p>\n

I don\u2019t want for a minute want to displace women as suffering the brunt of DFM nor too deny the fact that brutal men are the cause of it.<\/p>\n

Yet, when I hear things like \u201cWe must protect women and children from men\u201d part of me naturally asks, \u201cAnd who is protecting the children from some of those women?\u201d<\/p>\n

This abuse had a deep and detrimental effect upon me. For the first twenty years of my life I was convinced that most women hated me or were at least coldly indifferent to me. When I joined the army, this gynophobia was translated into a form of misogyny where women where somewhere between damsels to be protected and objects of sexual conquest. When I joined the church, I gravitated towards a very strict form religious conservatism on gender roles which was only undone by marrying a wonderful woman, raising two fantastic daughters, and realizing that white middleclass suburban life combined with nineteen-seventies sitcom patriarchy was not the lens through which to read Holy Scripture.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n<\/body><\/html>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Over at The Spectator, I have a piece about the untold side of women and domestic violence. Domestic and Family Violence (DFM) is a big issue in Australia and pretty much everywhere. It is a scourge, a cancer, it has no place in society, let alone in the church, it is only and always evil. […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":196,"featured_media":13093,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[1],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-13090","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-uncategorized"],"yoast_head":"\nThe Unspoken Side of Women and Domestic Violence<\/title>\n<meta name=\"description\" content=\"Over at The Spectator, I have a piece about the untold side of women and domestic violence. 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