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$\"9780800720629\"$ <\/a>On a whim, I picked up Holly Gerth\u2019s newest book, You\u2019re Going to Be Okay from the library.\u00a0 Mostly because I have made soooooo many mistakes in the past few months and my life has understandably and perhaps predictably fallen to shit.\u00a0 Ultimately, I checked it out because I needed a little reassurance, even though books this overtly saccharine aren\u2019t typically my thing. I rolled my eyes all the way back into my head when in the intro she states \u201cif sometimes you have bad hair days, this book is for you.\u201d\u00a0 And I put it down because I knew this book would only make me angry and somehow racist like almost everything does.\u00a0 But the next day was even worse than the day I checked out the book, so I opened it again.<\/p>\n

And then it got better.\u00a0 And then I started taking the book with me everywhere I went, ya know, if I \u2018got bored,\u2019 and had an extra 5 minutes lying around.\u00a0 And then about 4 days ago, I was all screw-life-everything-and-everyone-is-awful-and-why-hasn\u2019t-God-blown-us-all-to-smithereens-yet so I picked up the book and got half way through it. And then 3 days ago, I realized this book is MINISTERING to me, yo!\u00a0 And then yesterday, I was all fine-I-like-this-book-okay-fine!\u00a0 And then today, I realized this book has become somewhat priceless to me because just 4 days ago I just really wanted to magically cease to exist\u2026and now, somehow I feel magically hope-filled even though my horrendously awful circumstances haven\u2019t changed.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s a great<\/em> book. I repent in sackcloth and ashes for my judgmental eye-rolling behavior.<\/p>\n

One of the best little nuggets that I picked up on today had to do with identifying one\u2019s Signature Insecurity Strategy by assessing one\u2019s Signature Insecurity and one\u2019s fly off the handle<\/del> response when said insecurity is \u201cpushed.\u201d Holley suggests you work to change your response to this over time with God\u2019s help.\u00a0 Apparently, our greatest insecurity is often bound up with our greatest gifts.\u00a0 For me, as a communicator by gifting and passion, I take A LOT of pride and accomplishment in writing, speaking, dressing, presenting or anything<\/em> that communicates.\u00a0 I\u2019d rather be thirsty in a desert for 12 hrs. than be misunderstood.\u00a0 Being misunderstood throws me off my eva-lovin\u2019 rocker and I become this INSANE woman of WILD emotions and INTENSE anger and over-the-top behavior of fight or flight.\u00a0 Hence, a few angry blog posts or ~~ellenty-hundred<\/del> few angry Facebook posts.<\/p>\n~~

By being set off I either alienate friends through anger or I silence myself, i.e. \u201cI shouldn\u2019t finish my book because no one will understand or believe me.\u201d\u00a0 This a life changing mind set renewal.<\/p>\n

I\u2019m going to finish the book.\u00a0 I\u2019m going to be okay.<\/p>\n

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