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\u201c\u2019When I make a word do a lot of work like that,\u2019 said Humpty Dumpty, \u2018I always pay it extra.'\u201d<\/strong>: And now I come to the thing I care about most: songs.<\/p>\n

For it seems to me that there is one way in which the gay-marriage movement deserves the adjective \u201cOrwellian.\u201d It is designed to make any sense of the uniqueness of heterosexual eros <\/em>unspeakable, and ultimately unthinkable.<\/p>\n

There are boring practical reasons to have a separate and specific language for describing sex between men and women. I talked about that stuff here <\/a>and here<\/a>. The task of marriage is to make intercourse fruitful rather than devastating, since it has such great potential to be either.<\/p>\n

But there are also ways in which heterosexuality is uniquely beautiful, and our language of marriage developed to recognize this, too. Here\u2019s one way to get the quick thrill of encountering a foreign belief system: Check out the Mattachine Society\u2019s 1953 brief against gay marriage<\/a>. Mattachine was one of the first gay-rights organizations in this country; and yet here, the writers sound not even like John Paul II but more like Paul VI. I don\u2019t think I<\/em> would wax this rhapsodic about the sanctity of motherhood! [EDITED: Well, I should re-read things before I link them; this is fascinating in its way, but less unpredictable than I\u2019d remembered. Thoroughly skippable. Ah well.]<\/p>\n

There\u2019s something uniquely lovely about bringing together the two halves of humanity; about bridging la difference<\/em>; about moving He and She<\/a> past mutual incomprehension and suspicion, into harmony. (This is of course related to procreation, but separate from and prior to it. That\u2019s why JPII roots his \u201ctheology of the body\u201d in Adam and Eve\u2019s couplehood in Eden<\/a>\u2013before they had children.) <\/p>\n

There\u2019s something uniquely lovely about recognizing the sexual Other as one\u2019s home.<\/p>\n

(I\u2019d suggest that there\u2019s also something uniquely lovely about homosexual love, insofar as through love, one\u2019s sexual\u2026 compatriot? likeness? whatever is not \u201cself\u201d nor \u201cOther\u201d but \u201csimilar\u201d\u2026 becomes <\/em>an Other. Eros <\/em>is the complete union of two beings who nonetheless remain distinct, remain Other to one another; this is why heterosexual union is such a frequent Jewish and Christian symbol for the union of God and Israel or humankind. My experience of lesbian love is that it tends to draw out and heighten the ways in which the beloved is Other, or even transform her into Other, so that she can be the target of love. This is perhaps a rebuttal to the criticism that homosexuality is narcissism. Nonetheless, it is clearly a different <\/em>form of eros <\/em>than the heterosexual form, in which metaphysical Otherness is iconically represented by physical, sexual difference.)<\/p>\n

And yet now, if you try to talk about \u201cthe halves of humanity,\u201d or anything at all which might be unique to heterosexual eros<\/em>, you\u2019re a bigot. This is a new development. There have been cultures\u2013I\u2019ve said it before and I\u2019ll say it again\u2013which honored some forms of homosexual relationships, while still considering marriage to be something separate.<\/p>\n

I don\u2019t know if that\u2019s a path our conflictedly-Christianized culture can take. Still, it would be more accurate and more poetic than the moralistic, bourgeois denial of heterosexual uniqueness which fires the rhetoric of the gay-marriage movement.<\/p>\n<\/body><\/html>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"