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THE FINE MISMATING OF A HIM AND HER<\/a>\u2026<\/span>: Something I\u2019ve been thinking about without much coherence or resolution. I have a couple footnotes which I may post later, but for now I figured I\u2019d let my readers whack at this pinata for a while!<\/p>\n

As you know, Bob, I got a lot out of Christopher C. Roberts\u2019s Creation and Covenant<\/span>. Nestled among its more central claims and arguments, it makes a very strong theological case for something I\u2019ve already thought about, w\/o much resolution, when considering the \u201ctheology of the body\u201d: Women and men are made for one another, and yet celibacy is in some way a witness to that fact just as much as marriage is. So how does that actually work<\/span>?<\/p>\n

It\u2019s an especially weird or fraught question for me because so much of my conscious development of a spirituality which supports my celibacy has been devoted to finding chaste, Catholic ways to honor and express my love of women. So I\u2019m very aware of ways in which my prayer life, my volunteer work, my friendships, and my writing are ways in which I can serve and love women. And I stand by that as a necessary and fruitful lens through which to focus my spiritual life. But I\u2019m a lot more vague on how I relate, in my spirituality, to men or Man or Adam (?) or whatever I should be picturing here!<\/p>\n

However, when I was thinking about this question, I realized that the one prayer I return to most insistently (I don\u2019t count the rosary as one prayer) is the Anima Christi<\/a>. And this is such an enfleshed, almost lurid prayer, very visceral\u2013you become inebriated by Christ\u2019s blood and hide in His wounds. I wonder if perhaps this prayer is so powerful for me, or calls to me so much when I\u2019m in need, in part because it does offer such a strong spiritual connection to Christ-as-Man?<\/p>\n

I am really not able to express myself very well on this subject or form any interesting conclusions, so I suppose I\u2019ll just throw this out there and ask whether people have any reactions. And for a) the celibate, especially those celibate by vocation rather than circumstance, and b) the gay\/same-sex-attracted\/your-term-here among us, do you all perceive, in your own lives, a need for some kind of spiritual practice which \u201cbrings together the two halves of humanity\u201d? Have you found ways of living as woman for man, or man for woman, outside of marriage?<\/p>\n<\/body><\/html>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"