DUBNER VS. DUBNER<\/span>:<\/p>\n \u2026First, the Dubner story is a reminder of the critical importance of how we \u2013 as Christians, and as humans \u2013 understand death. For both Stephen and his mother, the spark that led to their respective rejections of their families\u2019 religious views and their own conversions was the way in which death was dealt with by these families. As a child, Florence Greenglass wanted to understand why her family feared death so deeply that they never talked about it \u2013 indeed, never told her that her own grandfather had died \u2013 while their Catholic neighbors marked the house of the dead with a ribbon and their children freely discussed whether the newly deceased had gone to heaven or purgatory. In becoming a Catholic, she embraced Christ\u2019s victory of death, pinning her hopes on the joys of heaven: death no longer needed to be feared. But ironically, it was a very similar frustration that led Florence\u2019s reflective and intelligent son away from Catholicism. When his father died, the ten-year-old Stephen was deeply uncomfortable with the way in which his death was treated almost as a joyful occasion in the family, with much talk of the happiness of the deceased in Heaven \u2013 and little room for the living to grieve on earth.<\/p>\n It\u2019s worth noting that Stephen did not know \u2013 at the time \u2013 that his father had been profoundly depressed, struggling for days to get out of bed; he thus could not understand what must have been very genuine feelings on his mother\u2019s part that the long-suffering Paul was indeed in a better place. At the same time, his Catholic household failed in the same way that Florence\u2019s secular Jewish one did: forgetting \u2013 in the adults\u2019 resolute decision that death was, respectively, either a terrifying evil or almost a non-event \u2013 to make room for a child to make inquiry of the reality of death and to come to terms with it.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n