{"id":5976,"date":"2012-07-05T20:39:41","date_gmt":"2012-07-06T00:39:41","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.patheos.com\/blogs\/evetushnet\/?p=5976"},"modified":"2012-07-05T20:39:41","modified_gmt":"2012-07-06T00:39:41","slug":"how-to-write-about-sex","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.patheos.com\/blogs\/evetushnet\/2012\/07\/how-to-write-about-sex.html","title":{"rendered":"“How to Write About Sex”"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<\/head>

this was the part which struck me:<\/p>\n

These insights extended to matters of the heart. A couple of years ago, after dating a mutual acquaintance of ours had left me feeling bruised and baffled, I sought Sister\u2019s advice. After hearing my story, she frowned slightly and asked, \u201cAre you sure ________ is even capable of the kind of intimacy you want?\u201d Just recently, the woman was diagnosed with a mild form of Asperger\u2019s Syndrome, which, while not precluding intimacy absolutely, does tend to complicate it.<\/p>\n

By some roundabout way, it was Sister\u2019s stodginess that allowed her to come closer to the truth than either of us could. My own diagnosis was that the woman was a lesbian. In part, I might have lit on the idea because it provided my ego with an out, but it was also in sync with my self-consciously modern outlook, the one that sees sex, especially exotic sex, everywhere. Sister saw straight through to human suffering. I\u2019ll try to remember her example the next time I feel the temptation to be tragically hip.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n

(more<\/a>)<\/p>\n

Those paragraphs reminded me of this short story<\/a>, in which\u2013among other things\u2013I suggested that the longing we see between two people, that visible absence, may not always be sexual desire. In this case it was the desire for absolution.<\/p>\n<\/body><\/html>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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