{"id":8022,"date":"2014-02-04T20:08:37","date_gmt":"2014-02-05T00:08:37","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.patheos.com\/blogs\/evetushnet\/?p=8022"},"modified":"2014-02-04T20:08:37","modified_gmt":"2014-02-05T00:08:37","slug":"making-gods-house-into-a-home-an-interview-wspiritual-friendships-wesley-hill","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.patheos.com\/blogs\/evetushnet\/2014\/02\/making-gods-house-into-a-home-an-interview-wspiritual-friendships-wesley-hill.html","title":{"rendered":"“Making God’s House Into a Home: An Interview w\/Spiritual Friendship’s Wesley Hill”"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<\/head>

woot!<\/p>\n

\u2026I wrote that book when I was in my mid-twenties. Like a lot of people that age, I was wrestling with strong emotions and grappling with deep hopes and fears about the future. My greatest fear was waking up one day in my 60s or 70s, in an apartment by myself, having lived a deeply isolated adult life, without family and people with whom I could make a \u201chome.\u201d Much of that angst has subsided now that I\u2019m in my early 30s, so if I were rewriting Washed and Waiting<\/em> today, I\u2019d be tempted to write more of an \u201cIt gets better\u201d message for young gay Christians.<\/p>\n

But part of me is glad that I don\u2019t have the opportunity to rewrite it, because I think there\u2019s value in recording those moments of pain and anguish. People have told me the book idealizes marriage\u2014that marriage, in real life, is far less glamorous and fulfilling than my twenty-something self portrayed it in the book\u2014and I\u2019m sure that\u2019s true. But, again, part of me is glad I wrote the way I did because I think one of the things the book does is show the evangelical church some of the consequences of an idolatry of marriage. I hope the book shows the church how hard it can be for a young gay person to hear all the evangelical praise of marriage and family and then, sadly, realize that if they\u2019re going to be faithful to what the evangelical church asks of them in their sexual lives, they can\u2019t have that.<\/p>\n

Now, let me hasten to add that I want to say now to young gay Christians that they (we!) can find a home, we can find a family, in the church. We can love and be loved. But part of our challenge on the way to doing so is learning to reject the false promises of \u201chome\u201d and \u201cfamily\u201d to solve all of our fears of loneliness.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n

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