{"id":8419,"date":"2014-06-05T09:56:35","date_gmt":"2014-06-05T13:56:35","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.patheos.com\/blogs\/evetushnet\/?p=8419"},"modified":"2014-06-05T09:56:36","modified_gmt":"2014-06-05T13:56:36","slug":"before-yesallwomen-there-was-the-gift-of-fear-me-at-amcon","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.patheos.com\/blogs\/evetushnet\/2014\/06\/before-yesallwomen-there-was-the-gift-of-fear-me-at-amcon.html","title":{"rendered":"Before #yesallwomen, There Was “The Gift of Fear”: Me at AmCon"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<\/head>

w\/criticism, but you should read the book:<\/p>\n

I had the vertiginous experience of reading Gavin de Becker\u2019s 1997 bestseller The Gift of Fear<\/em><\/a> in the midst of the reporting and reaction to the killings at UC-Santa Barbara. I read Gift<\/em> for the same reason as hundreds of other women: A close friend told me to. And there\u2019s a reason the book gets passed along. It\u2019s pushy, it\u2019s overstated, it\u2019s flawed\u2014but it\u2019s a powerful guide to recognizing potential violence and listening to your intuitions.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s also a sketch of how relations between the sexes go wrong. I\u2019d give it to girls for their protection; but de Becker also explains clearly why some of the strategies with which well-meaning guys often try to get girls\u2019 attention backfire, because they take place in a context where women fear violent assault. There\u2019s sharp commentary here on how men are conditioned to feel entitled to women\u2019s attention, and how they\u2019re trained to overlook the exact kind of violence and harassment that sparked the #yesallwomen hashtag discussion.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n

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