{"id":8898,"date":"2014-10-02T14:41:47","date_gmt":"2014-10-02T18:41:47","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/admin.patheos.com\/blogs\/evetushnet\/?p=8898"},"modified":"2014-10-02T14:44:46","modified_gmt":"2014-10-02T18:44:46","slug":"becoming-christians-what-if-you-are-an-ssa-couple-livingout","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.patheos.com\/blogs\/evetushnet\/2014\/10\/becoming-christians-what-if-you-are-an-ssa-couple-livingout.html","title":{"rendered":"“Becoming Christians: What If You Are an SSA Couple?”: LivingOut"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<\/head>

I don\u2019t love the insistence on re-terming this relationship a \u201cfriendship\u201d\u2013like, give people some breathing room to figure out how they want to talk about their own difficulties and loves!\u2013and I would emphasize more the need to minimize disruption for your children. But overall this is compassionate advice, from a trio of (openly!) same-sex attracted Christian ministers\/speakers in England:<\/p>\n

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We recently received an email from a member of a same-sex couple who have both just committed their lives to Christ.<\/p>\n

As well as rejoicing in this wonderful news, we were struck by their very relevant and understandable question: they have a child, and are trying to live as a Christian family, including considering that it might be right for them to stop the sexual side of their relationship and become celibate. Where does that leave them as a family? Would it be right for them to continue living together in the same house, but seeking to live celibate lives? As this is a question which I often get asked, I thought it might be helpful to share my take on this.<\/p>\n

Families come in all shapes and sizes. Part of what we want to do through Living Out is challenge the idea that everyone has to be married in an opposite-sex marriage, have children and so on. You can live a very fulfilling life without sex \u2013 but you cannot live a fulfilling life without intimacy and friendship. So, for some single people (whether same-sex attracted or not), living with Christian friends can be a great blessing.<\/p>\n

But what about the specifics of this question?<\/p><\/blockquote>\n

more<\/a>\u2013nice point about godparents btw. Oh and you can get my own take on this question in my book\u2026.<\/p>\n<\/body><\/html>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

I don\u2019t love the insistence on re-terming this relationship a \u201cfriendship\u201d\u2013like, give people some breathing room to figure out how they want to talk about their own difficulties and loves!\u2013and I would emphasize more the need to minimize disruption for your children. 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