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here you go!<\/p>\n

\u2026Q: Your book offers some very practical and helpful advice for gay Catholics who desire a full and fruitful relationship with the Church. If you could offer one major point of advice (along with my advice that they BUY the BOOK!), what would it be.<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n

You can kind of hear it in my answer above: honesty. It\u2019s really hard to be honest with yourself and with God. We often confuse self-criticism and even self-hatred with humility and honesty. But in fact self-loathing is self-*centered*, and often based in fantasy, in unrealistic demands of perfection. So to me honesty is just acknowledging what you\u2019re really thinking, feeling, and experiencing\u2013not what you think you *should* think or feel\u2013and offering that to God to do with it what He will.<\/p>\n

Sharing that with another person is also so important and life-giving; if you possibly can, find someone whom you trust, who is living out their faith in a way you admire, and be honest with that person as well.<\/p>\n

That\u2019s at least somewhat action-oriented advice. But the underlying message of the book is even more basic: The book\u2019s thesis is that gay Christians are called to give and receive love; our task in life, like everyone else\u2019s, is to find ways to love and be loved, to increase the tenderness and beauty in the world.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n

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