{"id":9449,"date":"2015-02-05T14:13:25","date_gmt":"2015-02-05T18:13:25","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/admin.patheos.com\/blogs\/evetushnet\/?p=9449"},"modified":"2015-02-05T14:13:25","modified_gmt":"2015-02-05T18:13:25","slug":"to-celibacy-tim-otto","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.patheos.com\/blogs\/evetushnet\/2015\/02\/to-celibacy-tim-otto.html","title":{"rendered":"“To Celibacy!”: Tim Otto"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<\/head>

raises a toast to the sorrows:<\/p>\n

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I made a vow, six years ago, to be celibate. The night before the vow I went with friends to a trendy Tapas bar in San Francisco. Next to us a group of frat guys were making loud, boisterous toasts. Their enthusiasm was infectious, and soon we were lifting our glasses with them. At one point my friend, the mischievous Michael, hoisted his glass and bellowed, \u201cTo Celibacy!\u201d<\/p>\n

Everyone lifted their glasses and yelled, \u201cHear, hear!\u201d and then those at the next table began muttering about what they had heard. \u201cWhat?\u201d \u201cWhat did he say?\u201d they asked each other.<\/p>\n

Now, six years later I find myself asking, \u201cWhat?\u201d \u201cWhat have I done?\u201d It is not that I want to renounce the vow. I made the vow thoughtfully; I took the vow knowing it was the next faithful step for me in following Jesus. But as some of my married friends testify, the cost of a promise only becomes evident in the keeping of it.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n

(more<\/a>)<\/p>\n

and an imo even more striking toast to the joys:<\/p>\n

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\u2026I lived waiting for that future magical moment what would determine my life. But, by living in that imaginary moment, I was missing the now. I was missing my life. I decided to choose the life God was actually giving me, without grasping at a future fantasy. I adopted Jayber Crow\u2019s resolution \u201cI try not to let good things go by unnoticed.\u201d I determined to excavate and explore the life I have for all its wonder and worth.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n

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