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(I am all about the sexy post titles today.)<\/p>\n

There\u2019s this thing I do, where if I know or suspect that you have a let\u2019s say intense and troubled relationship<\/em> to drugs or alcohol, I will immediately think your art is better, your writing<\/a> is more insightful<\/a>, your skating<\/a> is more sublime, you are cooler and funnier and more physically attractive. If I start to catch that scent from you I will start sniffing, and if my suspicions are confirmed my estimation of your personal awesomeness will skyrocket. (\u201cYeah uh, celibacy sounds like a good plan for you\u201d <- sane people\u2019s opinion. But who listens to them?)<\/p>\n

I don\u2019t love this tendency in myself, because I know people don\u2019t want to be esteemed for or evaluated on the basis of their addictions. The nicest term I can come up with for this thing is \u201cprurient solidarity.\u201d<\/p>\n

But I do want a nice term for it, because I think it helped me get sober. Recovery Options: The Complete Guide<\/em> <\/a>(great book) uses the \u201cstages of change\u201d model, and stage 1 is \u201cpre-contemplation.\u201d This is the part where you haven\u2019t admitted to yourself that you need to change. Or you can\u2019t imagine<\/a> ever changing. And one thing which gets you past this stasis is simply getting really interested in stories<\/em> of addiction and recovery. The more interested you are in other people\u2019s struggles with this stuff, the more likely you are to find the stories which resonate with you and illuminate an upward path. The more models you have for addicted people you love, the closer you come to caring for yourself a bit.<\/p>\n<\/body><\/html>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"