{"id":3095,"date":"2015-05-28T20:57:50","date_gmt":"2015-05-29T01:57:50","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/admin.patheos.com\/blogs\/faithonthecouch\/?p=3095"},"modified":"2015-05-28T20:57:50","modified_gmt":"2015-05-29T01:57:50","slug":"something-borrowed-something-blue-whats-behind-sad-bride-syndrome","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.patheos.com\/blogs\/faithonthecouch\/2015\/05\/something-borrowed-something-blue-whats-behind-sad-bride-syndrome\/","title":{"rendered":"Something Borrowed, Something BLUE. What’s Behind, “Sad Bride Syndrome”?"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<\/head>

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Not all brides are blissful after the wedding day. \u00a0Recent reports indicate a startling rise in post-wedding depression among some brides. \u00a0Although the old rhyme says \u201csomething borrowed, something\u00a0blue\u201d\u00a0<\/em>it\u2019s hard to imagine that\u2019s what the verse is referencing.<\/span><\/p>\n

According to The Science of Relationship Blog<\/span><\/a><\/span>\u00a0<\/em>\u00a0a new study suggests that are three factors that potentially set new brides<\/em> up to be \u201cblue brides.\u201d<\/em><\/span><\/p>\n

Difference 1: It\u2019s all about me.<\/strong><\/em><\/span><\/p>\n

Blue brides, compared to happy brides, were far more likely to view the wedding as \u201cmy day\u201d and all about what they wanted, and were focused on not letting anything stand in their way of getting what they want. In fact, some of the blue brides even referred to their guests as \u201cintruders\u201d \u2013 people that were mucking up \u201cmy day\u201d. In contrast, happy brides saw the wedding as a celebration for everyone, and were more concerned for and considerate about the measures others took to be there to celebrate. Happy brides also viewed the wedding as simply a step or formality to getting married \u2013 the focus was on life after the wedding.<\/em><\/span><\/p>\n

Difference 2: What now?<\/strong><\/em><\/span><\/p>\n

Blue brides were more uncertain about what life and marriage has in store for them after the wedding compared to happy brides. Specifically, blue brides were unsure of how they were supposed to behave as a spouse\/wife, worried about whether they made a mistake by marrying in the first place, and weren\u2019t sure about whether their expectations for married life were realistic. Happy brides did not report such uncertainty.<\/em><\/span><\/p>\n

Difference 3: The end or the beginning?<\/strong><\/em><\/span><\/p>\n

Not surprisingly, blue brides, given their \u201cme\u201d focus on the wedding, saw the conclusion of the wedding itself as an ending. Happy brides saw the wedding as the beginning of the rest of their lives with their partners. Thus, blue brides view the end of their weddings as a loss rather than a gain, which is not a particularly promising way to start a marriage. \u00a0 READ THE REST OF THE STORY<\/em><\/span><\/p>\n

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