{"id":1608,"date":"2012-05-14T16:08:08","date_gmt":"2012-05-14T21:08:08","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.patheos.com\/blogs\/fieldnotesonliving\/?p=1608"},"modified":"2012-05-14T16:08:08","modified_gmt":"2012-05-14T21:08:08","slug":"three-covenants","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.patheos.com\/blogs\/fieldnotesonliving\/2012\/05\/14\/three-covenants\/","title":{"rendered":"Three Covenants"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<\/head>
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Our love needs to be bigger than our insanity.<\/p>\n

\u2014Henk Brandt<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n

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There are three covenants that keep us engaged in the work of love. To begin with, when we see something true and beautiful in someone, it is not<\/em> the work of love to change them or force their growth in our direction. It is<\/em> the work of love to create conditions by which what is true and beautiful in all we behold can grow and blossom, bringing forth its deepest nature. At the same time, the work of love depends on giving others, especially young people, a sense of safety in the world, nurturing their confidence to lean into life and the unknown\u2014not away<\/em> from these eternal resources. Still, being human, we constantly slip from integrating our experience to being consumed by our experience. We move, almost daily, from having our fear, pain, and worry live in us to living within our fear, pain, and worry. So the third covenant of love is to keep each other company when we\u2019re drowning in our experience and awash in our feelings, until it all can right-size, until our experience and feelings can once again live in us. These covenants exercise the muscle of compassion we call the heart.<\/p>\n

\u2014excerpt from Seven Thousand Ways to Listen,<\/a> forthcoming from Simon & Schuster, October 2012<\/em><\/p>\n<\/body><\/html>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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