{"id":3953,"date":"2013-12-16T11:22:32","date_gmt":"2013-12-16T17:22:32","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.patheos.com\/blogs\/freedhearts\/?p=3953"},"modified":"2013-12-16T11:22:32","modified_gmt":"2013-12-16T17:22:32","slug":"how-does-god-appear-to-you","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.patheos.com\/blogs\/freedhearts\/2013\/12\/16\/how-does-god-appear-to-you\/","title":{"rendered":"How Does God Appear to You?"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<\/head>

\"black-jesus-sacred\"<\/p>\n

As Christmas approaches, I write you personally about knowing God. Personally. Intimately.<\/em><\/p>\n

Some children see Him lily white,<\/p>\n

The baby Jesus born this night.<\/p>\n

Some children see Him lily white,<\/p>\n

With tresses soft and fair.<\/p>\n

Some children see Him bronzed and brown,<\/p>\n

The Lord of heav\u2019n to earth come down.<\/p>\n

Some children see Him bronzed and brown,<\/p>\n

With dark and heavy hair.<\/p>\n

Some children see Him almond-eyed,<\/p>\n

This Savior whom we kneel beside.<\/p>\n

Some children see Him almond-eyed,<\/p>\n

With skin of yellow hue.<\/p>\n

Some children see Him dark as they,<\/p>\n

Sweet Mary\u2019s Son to whom we pray.<\/p>\n

Some children see him dark as they,<\/p>\n

And, ah! they love Him, too!<\/p>\n

The children in each different place<\/p>\n

Will see the baby Jesus\u2019 face<\/p>\n

Like theirs, but bright with heavenly grace,<\/p>\n

And filled with holy light.<\/p>\n

O lay aside each earthly thing<\/p>\n

And with thy heart as offering,<\/p>\n

Come worship now the infant King.<\/p>\n

\u2018Tis love that\u2019s born tonight!<\/p>\n

Some Children See Him,\u00a0<\/i>Alfred Burt<\/p>\n

Do you remember Q in Star Trek? So far beyond human understanding, that he appears in human form because that\u2019s a form humans can understand! That\u2019s what Q claims, anyway.<\/p>\n

God is even farther beyond human understanding than Q. How would he possibly come to us so that we could understand him? I wrote<\/a> about my two unrelated friends, Kacey and Becca, who were molested violently and repeatedly by pastors in their church. Both are asked often why\u00a0they still believe in God. And both recount personal experiences as little girls when God was manifestly present to them, visibly, personally present, in a way they could never forget. They certainly had recovery work to do, anger to express and self-worth issues to heal. But their personal experiences of God no one could take away.<\/p>\n

Did you experience God as a child? Did you have a personal interaction with him that formed how you see him? I did. As quite a young girl, I was drawn to God, I talked to him, and he made himself known to me. My family had no formal religious training, so I never learned of a harsh God just waiting for me to mess up. Instead I enjoyed interacting with a big, amazing God who was kind enough to be friends with a little girl. Beautiful.<\/p>\n

God has presented himself throughout history in ways we could relate to him. He approached Adam (who lived in the garden) by walking with him in the garden. He approached Abram (who was a nomad) by walking up to his tent like a nomad. David (a shepherd) called God the good shepherd. In the time of the kings, God appeared as a king. The God of Abraham, Isaac and Jacob, was a patriarchal God to the patriarchs. And to that patriarchal society, he was male\u2026 though the bible contains many images of God as female<\/a>. (I refer to God as \u201che\u201d and \u201chim,\u201d \u2014 though God is male and<\/em> female<\/a>. I just don\u2019t know what other pronoun to use! So please just bear with me.)<\/p>\n

For us to be able to relate to God, he has to appear to us in a way we can relate. He wants to commune with us, not scare us to pieces!<\/p>\n

This is not <\/i>to say we have created God in our image. On the contrary, our relational God initiated relationship with us, his creation, by reaching out to us in a way we can understand him without completely freaking out.<\/p>\n

Has God made himself known to you? How have experienced him? Lay aside what others may have said about your experience of God being wrong. After all, it\u2019s your<\/em>\u00a0experience. What has God shown you that you know is true, no matter what you hear to the contrary?\u00a0Because our experience of God is extremely important.<\/p>\n

If your thoughts are mixed with negatives, impossibilities, not-good-enoughs, that is not an accurate picture of God.\u00a0(He says, Come to me ALL who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest.)\u00a0<\/i>In another post we\u2019ll look at\u00a0why\u00a0<\/i>we have those negative perceptions and where they come from.<\/p>\n

But for now, I invite you to remember the positive ways God has shown his love and presence to you personally and intimately. Soak that in. Let him love you. Let him approve of you. Embrace the God who loves you and accepts you and embraces you.\u00a0<\/span>You.\u00a0<\/i>Not the cleaned up and perfected you\u2026. just little ol\u2019 you.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

If you cannot recall that experience, please ask<\/em> him for it. Ask him to show you his unconditional love and acceptance. I encourage you to ask boldly because that\u2019s who he is, and he is eager for you to know him like that.<\/p>\n

God is loving and present and true. Ask him to show himself to you in a way you can relate, that you won\u2019t forget. No one will ever convince Kacey or Becca\u2014or me\u2014that our personal experiences of God are not real. Because we were there, and he made sure we knew him.<\/i><\/p>\n

If you see him \u201clily white,\u201d \u201cbronzed and brown,\u201d or \u201calmond-eyed\u201d (as the song says), God loves you. If you are lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, queer or questioning, God loves you. If you\u2019ve made lots of mistakes, God loves you. No conditions. No waiting for the other shoe to drop. God loves you. Period. My wish for you, for a Christmas present to you, is to show you how much God loves you, and that you are good enough exactly as you are.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<\/body><\/html>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

As Christmas approaches, I write you personally about knowing God. Personally. Intimately. Some children see Him lily white, The baby Jesus born this night. Some children see Him lily white, With tresses soft and fair. Some children see Him bronzed and brown, The Lord of heav\u2019n to earth come down. 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