{"id":7158,"date":"2017-07-03T07:00:39","date_gmt":"2017-07-03T11:00:39","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.patheos.com\/blogs\/freelancechristianity\/?p=7158"},"modified":"2017-06-30T14:06:10","modified_gmt":"2017-06-30T18:06:10","slug":"patriotism-and-achieving-disagreement","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.patheos.com\/blogs\/freelancechristianity\/patriotism-and-achieving-disagreement\/","title":{"rendered":"Patriotism and the Art of Compromise"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<\/head>

I think it\u2019s time for us to get a little bit more uncompromising in our defense of compromise.\u00a0<\/span><\/strong>Jonathan Rauch<\/span><\/p>\n

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One of the many benefits of getting up early on Sunday morning in order to make the 8:00 service at church is that I can catch the last fifteen minutes of\u00a0Krista Tippett\u2019s radio program \u201cOn Being\u201d as I drive. I first became aware of Krista several years ago when I was on sabbatical at the ecumenical institute in Minnesota where she first got the idea for her program a few years before my semester there. Her show\u2014called \u201cSpeaking of Faith\u201d at the time\u2014aired on Sunday afternoons in Minnesota\u2014I listened every week and was pleased when our local NPR station picked it up a couple of years ago. Not every week is a classic, but every once in a while there is an \u201cOn Being\u201d broadcast that I just can\u2019t stop thinking about.<\/span><\/p>\n

A year or so ago I tuned in just in time to hear one of her guests say the following:<\/span><\/p>\n

I don\u2019t know why it is, but I think we\u2019re just at this moment in time where the public conversation is at a particularly low level of quality\u2014the coarseness, the ugliness, the assumption of bad faith, the triviality, the sensationalism. I really think that so many people are aware of this . . . I can\u2019t diagnose it, really, I don\u2019t have a diagnosis. All I really know is it\u2019s terrible, it\u2019s bad for the country, it\u2019s bad for our souls.<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n

\u201cTell me about it,\u201d I thought\u2014the guest\u2019s description nailed my perception of what public discourse has devolved into for the past several years. His comments were particularly\u00a0timely for Independence Day.\u00a0The title of that \u201cOn Being\u201d conversation \u00a0was \u201cThe Future of Marriage\u201d; the speaker I just quoted is David Blankenhorn, who argued against same sex marriage as a social good both in California\u2019s tumultuous Proposition 8 debate as well as in his 2007 book\u00a0The Future of Marriage<\/span><\/em>. He is also founder and director of the Institute of American Values. Blankenhorn\u2019s conversation companion that day, along with Tippett, was Jonathan Rauch, a Senior Fellow at the Brookings Institution, a lifelong journalist and the author of\u00a0Gay Marriage: Why It Is Good for Gays, Good for Straights, and Good for America.<\/span><\/em>\u00a0Rauch is a gay man and has publicly debated the gay marriage issue with Blankenhorn so often over the years in various forums that they ultimately became good friends. In the midst of the intellectual arguments for and against, both men realized that they shared something important in common. As Blankenhorn put it in a\u00a0New York Times\u00a0<\/span><\/em>op-ed in 2012,<\/span><\/p>\n

My intention is to try something new. Instead of fighting gay marriage, I\u2019d like to help build new coalitions bringing together gays who want to strengthen marriage with straight people who want to do the same<\/span><\/strong>.<\/span><\/p>\n

It was a costly decision for Blankenhorn financially. Half of his institute\u2019s board members resigned and half of his funding dried up.\u00a0Together in 2015 Rauch and Blankenhorn launched a joint initiative called The Marriage Opportunity Council, crossing liberal and conservative, gay and straight boundaries.<\/span><\/p>\n

The hour-long conversation is fascinating and informative\u2014I encourage you to take a listen.<\/span><\/p>\n

http:\/\/www.onbeing.org\/program\/future-marriage-david-blankenhorn-and-jonathan-rauch\/4883<\/a><\/span><\/p>\n

But on this Independence Day, I am particularly interested and intrigued by the final ten or so minutes of the show. Neither Blankenhorn\u2019s nor Rauch\u2019s intellectual arguments convinced his friend to change his mind on the issue. But the evolution of their friendship and dialogue is an illustration of what they call \u201cAchieving Disagreement.\u201d Blankenhorn\u2019s description sketches a possible approach to raising the low\u00a0level of public discourse in this country:<\/span><\/p>\n

It\u2019s easy to have a false disagreement. I can just say, \u201cOh, you\u2019re a bad person and you\u2019re stupid.\u201d I can just have a belief. But to actually know where we disagree requires effort from you and from me. We have to have a relationship to do that. And part of achieving disagreement means identifying areas of common ground. It means finding out where we agree. . . . In today\u2019s world of hyperpolarization and the sheer idiocy that is our public debate on most days, ninety-eight percent of the time, the heart just cries out for this kind of serious effort to achieve disagreement.<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n

This very difficult but necessary strategy transcends any particular issue. Human beings are capable of falling into polarized and ossified positions on every issue imaginable\u2014what would it be like to start difficult discussions with an extended search for what those disagreeing share in common? In the case of Blankenship and Rauch, discovering that they both were equally committed to strengthening marriage as a social institution changed everything\u2014it got them past the divisive issue of\u00a0who<\/span><\/strong>\u00a0should be allowed to be married.<\/span><\/p>\n

Jonathan Rauch argues that \u201cachieving disagreement\u201d is not only a good strategy for engaging with controversial issues, but also is our patriotic duty.<\/span><\/p>\n

I believe there\u2019s an element of patriotism about this. I believe that there are higher values, ultimately, than what each of us wants as individuals. I discovered in you [Blankenhorn], I thought, someone who understood that you\u2019re a multivalue person and that as strongly as you felt about marriage, that you felt even more strongly that we have to share the country. And it is our duty as citizens to find ways to live together. And that\u2019s a higher value still.\u00a0I equate that with a form of patriotism. When I see someone who won\u2019t compromise, I see someone betraying the core purposes of our Constitution, which is to force compromise.<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n

In a culture in which compromise has come to mean weakness and lack of principle, it is refreshing to be reminded that our country was constructed by its Founders to run on the fuel of compromise. To read James Madison\u2019s\u00a0Notes on the 1787 Constitutional Convention<\/span><\/em>\u00a0that produced our Constitution is to be immersed in a several month long exercise in compromise. It\u2019s time to return to that positive energy. As Rauch continues,<\/span><\/p>\n

I think of it as a duty. I think there are higher things than being right. By compromisers, by the way, I don\u2019t mean people who give up on their core values and roll over and get rolled by the bitter partisans on the other side. I just mean people who at the end of the day say, \u201cYou know what? I\u2019m not going to walk out of here with everything I wanted.\u201d I think it\u2019s time for us to get a little bit more uncompromising in our defense of compromise.\u00a0I think we should understand and say this is a matter of patriotic duty to our country. . . . If your idea of compromise is the other guy\u2019s going to agree with me . . . You are not being a patriotic American and you are betraying the founding premise of this country.<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n

On this day Independence Day, I commit myself to being a better compromiser. I am as willing and as capable of demeaning and belittling those who disagree with me on issues that are important to me as the next person\u2014but I can do better. \u00a0Enjoy Independence Day\u2014and don\u2019t forget to compromise!<\/span><\/p>\n<\/body><\/html>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Jonathan Rauch: It is our duty as citizens to find ways to live together. I equate that with a form of patriotism. 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