{"id":712,"date":"2010-03-10T18:15:38","date_gmt":"2010-03-10T22:15:38","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/fumblingtowardgrace.wordpress.com\/?p=711"},"modified":"2010-03-10T18:15:38","modified_gmt":"2010-03-10T22:15:38","slug":"havent-lost-me-yet-2","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.patheos.com\/blogs\/fumblingtowardgrace\/2010\/03\/10\/havent-lost-me-yet-2\/","title":{"rendered":"Haven't LOST Me Yet…"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<\/head>

Ben Linus and I have a lot in common. And anyone who is a fan of LOST knows that isn\u2019t a flattering comparison. But before I get there, I\u2019ll give some background. Ben was the leader of the \u201cOthers\u201d, the island\u2019s original inhabitants, whom were believed to be bad to the bone. Ben was ruthless in his quest to \u201cprotect\u201d the island, and maintain his power over the group. He gained his power through the mass extermination of the people who were living on the Island as part of the Dharma<\/a> Initiative, including his own father (who was a total jerk, by the way).<\/p>\n

Ben\u2019s adopted daughter Alex was the only person he ever loved. And he watched her be killed, in order to keep his power, and \u201cprotect\u201d the Island. Ben manipulated, lied to, bribed, and conned every person he came into contact with, in order to maintain his hold on the Others. He claimed all along that he did all he did on the orders of \u201cJacob\u201d the mysterious god-like protector of the Island. Yet Ben had never seen or heard from Jacob. Ben grew angry and disillusioned; he had allowed his daughter to be killed for \u201cthe Island\u201d, but Jacob still gave no answers.<\/p>\n

In a fit of rage, spurred on by UnLocke, an evil entity who is the enemy of Jacob, Ben murders Jacob with a knife to the heart. Then he lies about it, telling everyone that UnLocke did it.<\/p>\n

Illana, Jacob\u2019s most devoted follower, doesn\u2019t really believe Ben\u2019s story, and asks Miles (a man who can sense how a person died and their last thoughts) to tell her the truth. He tells the group that Ben killed Jacob, and when Ben claims that Jacob didn\u2019t even care that he was being killed, Miles tells him, \u201cOh no, he cared. Right up until the knife stabbed his heart, he hoped he was wrong about you.\u201d<\/p>\n

Illana is very, very mad and makes Ben dig his own grave. When he is done, she will kill him. Suddenly, UnLocke appears, and makes an offer to Ben: come and follow me. UnLocke promises to restore Ben to power, to put him back in charge of the Island. He just needs to make a run for it. So he does. Then Illana chases Ben into the jungle, where he has found a rifle. The following scene shows what happened next:<\/p>\nhttp:\/\/www.youtube.com\/watch?v=1fCrFXqVAVo<\/a>\n

Ok everyone, deep breath. I\u2019m convinced that if that didn\u2019t choke you up, you might not have a soul.<\/p>\n

What you didn\u2019t see in that scene, was that Ben had spent the entire episode denying that he killed Jacob, trying to make a deal, scheming to save his own hide, and refusing to admit what he did. In other words, he was being himself.<\/p>\n

I have been thinking about that scene since last night, playing it over in my mind, and a few things stuck out to me.<\/p>\n

(1) Jacob (and his followers) are ultimately good, despite being flawed. When Illana is faced with the man who killed her mentor and closest friend, and he finally admits to it, she forgives him. At least enough to not kill him or make him leave. She lets him remain with the group.<\/p>\n

(2) We are all a little bit like Ben. Over the course of the series, I have developed a soft spot for Ben. Don\u2019t get me wrong, he has done terrible things. But he has also been wounded deeply and early, and those wounds did not ever really heal. Ben is prone to lie, to manipulate, to treat others with contempt if they do not factor into his plans. Ben is cold and calculating. Ben represents the side of our nature we\u2019d rather not think about. Ben represents fallen humanity. Which leads to\u2026<\/p>\n

(3) This scene is the story of how redemption begins. When we\u2019re the ones in Ben\u2019s shoes, digging our own graves, as a result of our selfishness, our manipulations, our desperate grab for power, it\u2019s God who comes to us and says, \u201cWhat do you want?\u201d<\/p>\n

Ben says to Illana, \u201cI don\u2019t expect you to forgive me, because I can never forgive myself.\u201d and she replies, \u201cWhat do you want?\u201d<\/p>\n

Ben says, \u201cJust let me go.\u201d He says he will return to UnLocke, and when she asks why he would want to go to him, knowing that he is evil, Ben responds with tears in his eyes, \u201cBecause he\u2019s the only one who\u2019ll have me.\u201d Oh Ben.<\/p>\n

My heart breaks for this broken man, because I\u2019m just like him. So often, trapped in my sin, God stands before me and asks, \u201cWhat do you want?\u201d and I respond with, \u201cJust leave me here God. Just let me keep doing what I\u2019ve been doing. Just let me go.\u201d When we are before God, and our excuses, our manipulations, our grab for power falls apart, we finally have to admit to it. All of it. And all we can do is ask for forgiveness, even though we know, as Ben did, that we don\u2019t deserve it.<\/p>\n

Even when I am spared the wrath, I think that total reconciliation is not possible (maybe for others, but not for me!), so I just hope I\u2019ll be let go, and go to the one who I think will still have me. That is, the evil one. Just because we are believers, does not mean we are immune to this thinking. Ben after all, was a devoted follower of Jacob for many years.<\/p>\n

And just like Ben, I am surprised by grace every time. God simply says, \u201cI\u2019ll still have you.\u201d and then He turns and continues on, beckoning us to follow. But it\u2019s for us to decide. We must choose, just like Ben had to choose.<\/p>\n

What this scene doesn\u2019t show is what happened after Illana walked away. Ben was free. He could stay with Illana and the followers of Jacob, or he could go and join with UnLocke and his group. He had to choose between power and goodness; UnLocke promised him power over the Island again, if he joined him. But in that moment Ben felt the freedom of forgiveness, and the lure for power did not sway him. He followed Illana back to camp. The beginning of redemption.<\/p>\n

While I was walking Sirius this afternoon, I was listening to some music and a song by Switchfoot came on, called Yet. It is the perfect song to describe Ben\u2019s story, and all of ours too. So perfect in fact, that I\u2019ll end this post with it.<\/p>\nhttp:\/\/www.youtube.com\/watch?v=rfNo4Nvkfyw<\/a>\n<\/body><\/html>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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