It crept up on me, but it was suddenly time to have the talk. I switched off the radio as I was driving my oldest daughter to a lesson, and slowly let out my breath. Obviously, my daughter was feeling things she had never felt before, and a quick glance was enough to tell me that now was a time she needed me to talk. She asked, \u201cMommy, what were they talking about, ending pregnancies?\u201d<\/p>\n
You see, the car radio was on, and the National Public Radio (NPR) lead-in sounded innocuous enough: \u201cIn the central market in San Salvador, you can buy just about anything you want: tomatoes by the wheelbarrow full. Fresh goat\u2019s milk straight from the goat. Underwear. Plumbing supplies. Fruit. Hollywood\u2019s latest blockbusters burned straight onto a DVD.\u201d<\/p>\n
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But it quickly segued to bitter tea and stronger pills to take care of an unwanted pregnancy (\u201cEven when Abortion is Illegal, The Market May Sell Pills For Abortion\u201d). Suddenly I had the talk\u2014about abortion!\u2014with my newly turned six-year old daughter.<\/p>\n
What may have best captured the incident is my six-year old\u2019s flummoxed response at the end of our conversation: \u201cBut, mommy, they\u2019re going to give people ideas!\u201d And those ideas are to buy illegal drugs and take the wrong medicines on purpose because you have a baby inside you.<\/p>\n
Pro-choice America, you had your chance to educate my daughter, and in less than two minutes you taught my daughter that pregnancy is to be feared and silenced. My daughter heard for the first time that, when women are scared or need help, they should take it out on themselves, even if it is illegal, even if it is by taking the wrong medicine.<\/p>\n
It Didn\u2019t End There<\/strong><\/p>\nThe next day, my six-year old was whispering to my four-year old with eyes of fear and shame. She cast her eyes down, looked at me, and said, \u201cI had to tell her.\u201d<\/p>\n
I did not hesitate, in the car or over that lunch table, to respond. I looked my daughters in the eye, as the strong woman I am, and the strong women I want them to be, and said, \u201cSome people think they have no choice, but we can help. If you ever\u2014ever\u2014hear about someone who is pregnant and needs help, we will help. We can pray for all babies and their mommies, and we can always try to help.\u201d<\/p>\n
I am not looking to adopt, but would I? Sure. And there are thousands of people like me throughout this country and many others. I can also open my mouth to raise awareness of our local center, which every day professionally connects needy people with resources already waiting for them.<\/p>\n
Horrific Medical and Life Advice<\/strong><\/p>\nWhereas I want a broad education for my child, apparently public education plans to supplement DARE with unsolicited abortion advice. This NPR story was not about El Salvador, nor does it try to accomplish the aim of the series: \u201clooking at the health implications of abortions in developing countries.\u201d After instructing women to take three doses of misoprostol for an opportunity for a legally-undetectable abortion, the journalist adds that, really, it\u2019s better to supplement with mifepristone for more effective results. Apparently NPR is intent on better educating black marketers as well as any six-year old listening!<\/p>\n
Let\u2019s be straight. The pro-abortion agenda paints a woeful picture of women. It daily preaches that pregnancy devastates, unless you have every duck in a row for a flawless life ahead. And any lingering qualms that medical oversight should accompany potent medicine or induced labor have sailed into the distance (flaunted by Women on Waves, whose members proudly visit countries to encourage illegal self-administered abortions), explicitly instructing things such as lie to the doctor about what you have done.<\/p>\n
When my daughter thinks about abortion, she thinks about herself as the child. She thinks about her brother(s?) and sisters and all those ultrasound pictures she\u2019s seen of herself and others. She thinks, \u201cWould my mommy have killed me? Will she kill the babies inside her now?\u201d Abortion is emotional and traumatic for her, teaching her just how expendable children and human life can be. And, although she has mourned infant death at church, now she knows that others seek it out, advocate for it, and fill the airwaves with proscriptions for death\u2014no doctor or oversight needed.<\/p>\n
Pushing a Culture of Female Fear<\/strong><\/p>\nHer fears, and the ridiculously low view of the value of children today, are only a part of the picture. Women are abused into abortion every day. Encouraged to lie to doctors, husbands, pastors, and children, they are force-fed words that silence their honest grief and regrets. They are not only expected to toe party lines, but they are to promote abortion and belittle all aftereffects. They are not to question or think or speak out if it is against abortion.<\/p>\n
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