{"id":20244,"date":"2014-11-24T05:30:32","date_gmt":"2014-11-24T10:30:32","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/admin.patheos.com\/blogs\/geneveith\/?p=20244"},"modified":"2014-11-23T19:17:05","modified_gmt":"2014-11-24T00:17:05","slug":"sologamy","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.patheos.com\/blogs\/geneveith\/2014\/11\/sologamy\/","title":{"rendered":"Sologamy"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<\/head>

Another family innovation:\u00a0 Marrying yourself.<\/p>\n

From Robert George, Same-Self Marriage | Timothy George | First Things<\/a>:<\/p>\n

It\u2019s only a trickle, not yet a trend, but it is out there, and it has a name: sologamy. Sologamy is the marriage of someone to one\u2019s own self\u2014the his- or herness of it is not relevant, although it seems to be mostly women who are doing it. Apparently Linda Baker was the first person to marry herself back in December 1993. Others have followed suit, including Sara Sharpe, who wrote about her self-marriage in A Dress, A Ring, Promises to Self. And there\u2019s Nadine Schweigert, a thirty-six-year-old-woman from Fargo, North Dakota, who was interviewed by Anderson Cooper after marrying herself in front of some forty of her closest friends. \u201cI, Nadine,\u201d she said to herself, \u201cpromise to enjoy inhabiting my own life and to relish a lifelong love affair with my beautiful self.\u201d Jennifer Hoes is a Dutch woman who did the same thing in 2003. Her same-self marriage was the subject of a recent ten-minute documentary by Aeon Magazine.<\/p>\n

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What is going on here? In the Christian tradition, marriage has historically been understood as a lifelong, conjugal covenant between a man and a woman, a union of love that involves the giving of oneself to God and to others. Today the institution of marriage, which has flourished not only among Christians but across many religious traditions of the world, is being challenged from many angles and by many practices. Until quite recently, these were all regarded as inimical to human flourishing in society. Such practices include so-called same-sex marriage, polygamy, incest, polyamorous relationships of various kinds\u2014and now sologamy.<\/p>\n

In some ways same-self marriage is the logical outgrowth of what cultural critic Christopher Lasch described in his 1979 bestseller The Culture of Narcissism. Lasch, building on Sigmund Freud\u2019s classic essay \u201cOn Narcissism\u201d of 1916, applied the term to the sense of grandiosity and excessive self-love that seem to mark not only psychologically disordered individuals but post-sixties American society as a whole.<\/p>\n

via Same-Self Marriage | Timothy George | First Things<\/a>.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/blockquote><\/body><\/html>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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