The family is the foundation of culture. This is not a bromide of the Christian right, but plain fact, as every anthropologist will tell you. Families associate with groups of families, forming networks of social interdependence as families make a living, socialize children, and protect themselves. The family and the culture are supposed to work hand in hand.<\/p>\n
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But today in the 21st<\/sup> century West, we are struggling through a cultural dysfunction of almost unparalleled magnitude.\u00a0 The culture and the family are now in conflict, to the detriment of both.<\/p>\nCultural artifacts are set against the family. <\/em><\/strong>According to anthropologists, the artifacts of a culture\u2014its art, stories, music, and other creations\u2014serve to communicate and to reinforce that culture\u2019s values. By these means, the elders teach the children the ways of the culture. Eventually, the young people learn what they need to know and are initiated into adulthood, whereupon they can start families of their own.<\/p>\nBut today, families are put in the strange position of having to protect their children from their own culture.<\/p>\n
Our culture\u2019s art, stories, music, and other creations tend to undermine what parents are trying to teach their children, rather than reinforce them. Our culture\u2019s artifacts\u2014television, movies, and videogames\u2014often glamorize immorality. The world they project often has nothing to do with family, being mostly about the adventures of single people. When the entertainment media does deign to show families, they are often presented in a negative light (with husbands and wives yelling at each other and yearning to be single; with buffoon fathers and smothering mothers; with misunderstood children who are wiser than their parents).<\/p>\n
And, in the oddest anthropological phenomenon of all, our cultural artifacts are shaped not by adults but by children. Teenagers set our cultural fashions. In every other culture, elders determine the fashions, make the music, and tell the stories. With us, adolescent children make the culture.<\/p>\n
Of course, children cannot afford recording studios or Hollywood sound stages. Adults still manufacture and sell the artifacts. But they gear television and movies to the taste of adolescents, with little effort to form them into adults. And our popular music is entirely the province of teenagers, who are the performers and trend-setters.<\/p>\n
The result is that our adult culture is infantilized. Adults try to be like children, instead of vice versa, as is the case in normal cultures. Thus we see old people trying to look young, middle-aged people still listening to the music they had when they were teenagers, and parents trying to fit in with their children\u2019s friends. All of this is, of course, pathetic, ridiculous, and embarrassing to actual children.<\/p>\n
Sex is set against the family.<\/em><\/strong> God designed sex in order to create families. A man and a woman are drawn to each other, and they marry. By means of their sexual union, they engender children. Sex is supposed to be a family value.<\/p>\nBut today, our culture presents sex completely out of the context of the family. Sex is not reserved for marriage. Most of the many portrayals of sex in our cultural artifacts are specifically outside<\/em> marriage.<\/p>\nAnd from those portrayals, one would never dream that sex exists to engender children. In practice, \u201cgetting pregnant\u201d is an unfortunate side effect of sexual pleasure, to be medicated against. If the woman wants the child, of course, that is fine, but if not\u2014since in our culture, the choice of the will determines everything\u2014the child is killed.<\/p>\n
When sex is disassociated from marriage and from having children\u2014from the family\u2014the pleasure is all that remains. And it becomes difficult for many people to see what is wrong with whatever gives a person sexual pleasure. If sex is disconnected with having children, why not have sex with someone you are not married to? Or with someone of your own gender? Or with yourself?<\/p>\n
In her brilliant book Real Sex<\/em>, Christian author Lauren Winner points out that our culture\u2019s extramarital approach to sex even infects\u2014and sometimes ruins\u2014marital sex.\u00a0 God designed sex to be a normal part of ordinary domestic life. But our culture, which is oblivious to the real thing, presents sex as having to be exotic, dangerous, and forbidden. So even married people, sometimes urged on by \u201cChristian\u201d sex manuals, think they have to \u201cspice up their lives.\u201d Contrary to this mindset, which cultivates the appeal of adultery and perversion, is the greater fulfillment of sexual love as a normal part of marriage.<\/p>\nWork is set against the family. <\/em><\/strong>The Reformers spoke of the \u201cthree estates,\u201d the three institutions God established: the family, the church, and the state. We, in turn, have callings\u2014or vocations\u2014in each of these realms, where we are to love and serve our different neighbors and live out our Christian faith.<\/p>\nWhen we think of \u201cvocation\u201d today, we often immediately think of the particular work we do. But the word \u201ceconomics\u201d originally referred to \u201cthe management of a household.\u201d For the Reformers, the various callings that constitute economic activity fell under the estate of the family.<\/p>\n
In our work, we make a living for ourselves and our families. Our vocations are not a matter of our own self-fulfillment or self-aggrandizement, but for the sake of our neighbors: the customers we serve and the family-members we are supporting.<\/p>\n
But today, work is thought of as being about the self. Our work isolates us rather than brings us into service to our culture and especially to our families. Thus, we often neglect our families in favor of our work. When fathers are so busy at work\u2014or commuting back and forth\u2014that they spend less than five minutes a day with their children, as is common today, their callings are seriously out of whack.<\/p>\n
Broken marriages, unparented children, pornography, abortion, and most of our other \u201cculture war\u201d issues are family problems. Building strong families is the key to putting the culture back together.<\/p>\n
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